What to do when you are lonely...?

[clipclop1]

Hi everyone, just wondering what you all do when you feel lonely? Things are rubbish at the moment, Dad just died last month, i have a lovely boyfriend but lives at the other end of the country, We're having to leave our home of 22 years coz we cant afford it anymore, I have lots of mates, all of whom are down south, away or have given up asking me to go out coz i've been so busy, skint and down lately... there's been a few times i've tried talking to people close to me about how I feel and they literally don't hear me, so I give up trying. I'm a very bubbly kind of person so no one really expects me to be down a lot of the time... there's no right answers... I feel there's not much point talkin to my family, close friend or boyfriend tonight as they're all busy doing nice things and don't wanna dampen their relaxation time... just fancied talking a little bit to someone... (my mum is ALWAYS on AB so mum, if you read this... not hard feelings, just feeling a bit rubbish... ) x

[Mamyalynne]

Mum won't mind you posting this am sure. It is a very tough time, you obviously have interests, so seek out clubs etc where you can meet like minded people and eventually (it won't happen overnight) you will gain a new group of friends. Loneliness is horrid but you do have to put yourself out there, sorry if that sounds harsh.

[Mamyalynne]

Try a bit of voluntary work too if you have an hour or two spare, charity shop or something similar, you will meet alsorts of folk. Remember we are hear to listen too.

Mamya ♥

[Mick-Talbot]

I can't answer that clipclop, lonely is something i never get.
But if I get bored, I come on here and rattle a few cages.

try it, it can be fun.

[anneasquith]

clipclop, put the kettle on , tea for two, ask mum to come and have a chat with you. maybe you both need to tell each other how you are both feeling....good luck anne.

[Mick-Talbot]

and i'll have a nescafe, please.

[what..the?]

i always, watch tv, a movie, or chat on here when i am lonely,

I don't know what your lifestyle is like and if you have any free time what with you talking about your current financial situation, but have you thought of meeting new people to take your mind off things, maybe fresh people might cheer you up.what about joining local clubs or groups doing activities you enjoy or volunteer work can be very fulfilling it might be a piece of life which is missing?

[clipclop1]

Thanks everyone, it IS nice to post on here and feel like people are listening.
No Anne, she's watching a prog she's been waiting for so dont wanna spoil it for her just now. I feel like there's got to be a certain time to chat about horrid stuff, don't wanna dampen her mood when she's feeling ok if you see what I mean.

Thanks mamyalynne, Yeah i work and am training to do a big charity event etc so am ok in that respect, just in the evenings when there's not a lot to do and am too skint to head out I just get down thinking bout stuff...

Mick, I appreciate that but don't rattle MY cage tonight please! lol

[what..the?]

Is there a home hobby you could take up in the evening like art or reading? You could make a micro business out of selling the results like selling art, embroidery or cakes etc

[clipclop1]

Yeah they are good ideas 'What.the'. Only problem is il be leaving to work on a cruise ship in 6 weeks so not a lot of time to do anything long term... do i sound like I am making excuses?? I'm not trying to, I promise! Readin is an option, mum is always banging on at me to get some proper books out.. (there's only so many times you can read Harry Potter! haha!)

[anneasquith]

clipclop, go have a coffee with mick talbot,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,now that will cheer you up ! :)

[dotty.]

I thought you were a nurse?

[boxtops]

clipclop, I do understand - you've got a big change coming with your cruise job coming up, too - so lots on your mind. I used to do a lot of sewing, and jigsaws - passed the time, but gave me too much time to think, too. Things will get better, it's early days since losing your dad, and unless your friends have been in your situation, they really don't know how it feels. Don't be afraid to admit to them that you're a bit down - you have the right to. Try what you can to enjoy the spring coming, and the flowers and trees springing into life - it does give you hope. YOu'll have time to catch up with your mum before you go off to your new job - it sounds great, btw! - but even then, make space for yourself. People will understand, and you will still have the odd rubbish day quite unexpectedly - but we've been there too, and it does get better ♥

[clipclop1]

Ooo dotty you ARE good! lol, Im starting my degree in Sept, so headin away on a ship for 2 months to get money saved for uni, home for 3 weeks then moving away down south... thats another depressing thing... leaving mum... :(

[what..the?]

lol harry potter, I am not a reader but I like quite basic reads when I do read, I get bored otherwise and can't remember what I have red, I don't know if you the same but if so would recommend if you like harry potter to get books similar.

Could you get a book and cd from the library to learn a language which might be useful for the cruise ship? Or origami from napkin folding :)

[chrissa1]

I know how you feel but everything will be ok and fine, just you wait and see. xxxx

[sherrardk]

Hi clip clop - last year, around this time, I lost my mam and granddad within six weeks of each other. I was very down, my husband is not an emotions sort of personal I had to just get on with. It is hard, but you have your work on the cruise ship to look forward to. Just try to take some time to talk to your mam before you go away though, maybe she has things she would like to share with you. (BTW, I wasn't shattered when she died, an I still haven't really accepted that she has gone so maybe I am a bit of a basket case but you sound like you are close to your mam so get things sorted out of the way.)

[20SilkCut]

Hi clipclop - sorry to hear about your dad. But hey, dont underestimate your friendships etc - i'm sure those people wont mind you talking to them about how you feel, and also as you are going away in a few weeks, it might be nice to sit and chat to your mum about your dad. Its nice to talk about the memories and get photos out, its comforting sometimes - and at least you will have spent some good family time with her before you go away. Good luck.

[boxtops]

clipclop, where are you going to be studying, down our way?

[clipclop1]

Aw thanks Boxtops, they were some really nice words and ideas! I did start to learn Spanish a while ago and stopped so I may just take that up again! Thanks to everyone else too... Mum... knew you would find this question! lol. Love you... xxx