What rights does my ex's mother have to my son?

[legohouse]

okay here's the thing... my aunt said something to me the other day and its got me worrying


went i had my son my ex's mum said that she was trying for a baby but now that she has a grandson... she don't need to have one.

she sees my son went she likes... and a lot of the time its every week..
she takes him out by herself and she has had him over night once or twice..

went i drop my son off the other day my aunt said that i should pull back from her as she could be noting things i say and do. so that she can get my son to live with her.

can she take my son from me? even though my son's father's not on the birth certificate

please help me

[CreamSoda]

No she cant. Unless you are abusing your child she needs to butt out, and you need to limit her contact with him.

[jomifl]

why would she be able to?

[cathfromsaron]

she can't just take him ot keep him BUTshe may influence him againsyt you if she has a mind to!

apart from hearsay, what other worries have you had? x

[rowanwitch]

Ease back a bit if you think it is too much but if little one loves his granny and you feel he is safe with her it seems to help everyone..you get some you time...your son has safe contact with his fathers side and she gets to enjoy having a little one to spoil with no pressure

[legohouse]

he a bit young for her to influence him as he is only 10 months old

[Kassee]

I dont think someone could really influence a child against their mum - not when their mum in the main carer. If she ever said anything bad about me to my child, then I would stop her seeing him as she would be a bad influence of him.

[Nini74]

I think you should tell your Aunt to butt out and stop stirring trouble. Your ex's mother is just enjoying spending time with her grandson - it gives you a break, and she clearly cares for him a great deal, so what's the problem? I don't understand the advice here to pull back and stop him seeing his grandmother - why would you want to deprive your son from having a healthy relationship with his grandparent? sounds to me more like your aunt is bitter about something....

[AlBags]

No ..
She should keep her nose out .. It's not her life.

[welshlibranr]

no way!....he's your son!.....not hers!.....she may wish she could have him, but he's your son!..........don't be worrying!......it will neve happen!....

[grasscarp]

I find it odd that people join Answerbank just to ask questions like this. We only know what you tell us and if you are really worried about your son being taken away what difference does the opinion of a bunch of complete strangers matter. If you are really worried discuss this with a solicitor as to the situation with your son who does not have the father on his birth certificate.