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teenagers rejection of stepdad
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I do agree with Andy Hughes.
I watched my daughters be absolutely foul to my partner. Between the age of 13 and 18, the youngest one could hardly be bothered to give him the time of day. He has been a long-suffering saint and managed to treat the situation with humour, only snapping occasionally when she was really unbearable. He now has his reward - they both love him dearly, rely on him, go to the pub with him and turn to him in times of trouble. They both wonder how on earth he put up with them and feel that he is and was far more of a father to them than the real one.
So plod on, be as consistent as you possibly can be and wait for him to grow up a little. He will. Teenagers love the drama of families at war. They don't have the experience to understand how destructive it can really be. And try not to get too hurt. They lash out really, I think, to get a reaction. It's like a small child saying "I hate you." They don't actually know the meaning of the word but it feels good to say it!
I'm so sorry to ask a seemingly incensitive and undoubtedly stupid question but.... please could you explain the family tree a bit for me. I understand that you have raised this boy as a son, although biologically you are not his father. That is clear (and I really hope that you continue to feel loved by him, I am sure the other statements are right and that he still really really appreciates you!). However, I'm a bit lost about the situation with the boy's mother. If your wife and the boy's mother are not the same person, and he's not your biological son, how is he your stepson (I agree, horrible term, but you know what I mean)? Is it that you were married to the boy's mum, but now you are married to someone else?
I'm sure I'm being stupid. I really don't mean this rudely at all - I'm just genuinely confused! :-S Sorry!
I SEE - so YOU and your wife (who is the boy's mother) have argued (or had differences of opinion), but always compromised on what is best for your son (hers biologically, yours because you brought him up)!?
Well, I'm sure your son knows that he has a loving father in you - and great parents when he looks at the team of you and his mum. I'm sure he knows that - and will remember to show that again very soon. :-D
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