How To Get Away From Emotionally Controlling Parents That Im Afraid Of

[Rosa-b]

Im a 23 year old female who lives at home
My parents have been over protective,emotionally and physically abusive my entire life I was never allowed to have friends over and any friends I did have i was never allowed to hang out with. Many friends I've been forced to cut contact with because my parents didn't like them for whatever reason they could think of. I don't have a job because im on disability however my mother gets all of that money and im not allowed more than 50 or 60 bucks a month for myself. They control everything I do from what time I wake up to how late I can stay out and where I can go. Most of the time im not even allowed out unless they are with me. I can't even walk around the block without a million questions they go through my phone and personal conversations. They call me things like retard *** *** *** ugly fatass. And if they get too angry they resort to physical abuse my mother has sat on my chest while hitting me in the face. And if I try to defend myself by blocking her hits she threatens me she tells me she will call the police and say that I hit her and my dad will be a witness to it even though I've never touched her. Never in my life have I even stood up to them but it's because im terrified of them. They have forced me to break up with every boyfriend I've ever had even if I didn't want to. One in particular I was in love with and I was crying begging them not to make me do it so my mom went and put all of her rings on and told me either break up with him or I will beat your face in. They tell me if I think I have it so bad to just get out but they know I have nowhere to go. I don't even have friends I'd be homeless and they know that. They always tell me I can't make it without them.
Im not even allowed to have a driver's license
So what can I do im running out of hope

[andypipwilly]

Hello from the UK.
5 minutes online have led me to many help lines but in different states and counties.
If desperate get to the police and go from there..
Best wishes

[Old_Geezer]

You'd probably get better informed advice regarding US solutions from a US website. Many use Yahoo's Q&A pages. However I wonder what the result would be were abusive parents to lie to the authorities and claim that their disabled daughter hits them. I'd suspect that the authorities would talk to the daughter and thus give her an opportunity to tell her side to the authorities, and should worse come to worse maybe the daughter would be taken from the abusive parents thus improving the daughter's situation. I suspect that the threatened lie is a bluff.

[andypipwilly]

By counties and states I was of course referring to US ones.

[cassa333]

Let her call the police. Surely being arrested would be better than living with the abuse? In fact why not call the police yourself. You have been cowed by threats that she will not follow through with because she know she that she is the guilty one. But you are so frightened by what she has done you can't see that.

How disabled are you? That might be a factor in what help you are able to get from the state or a charity organisation.

You must be allowed out at some point otherwise you wouldn't have friends or boyfriends for them to demand you drop so Next time you get out on your own go to a refuge and ask for help.

As awful as it seems next time she threatens you with physical violence let her hit you in the face and go out to the police at the earliest opportunity.

Have you any marks that they have inflicted that can be shown as proof?

If you manage to run away you should be able to get your disability payments made to you and not to them. Other than the control they have I suspect your money is a factor in their behaviour.

[sinderella]

secretly record their theats.then open that front door and get the .... out

[EDDIE51]

^^ The best answer so far. You need to find a way to record what they do !

[EDDIE51]

Do you have your own bank account? If so write to the benefit agency and tell them to put the money in your own account. You are over 21 so you can tell the agency where you want the money.
I would phone the police, in reality you are being kept prisoner !

[jennyjoan]

Too long winded and I also American children are not too soft.

She knows that Social Services can step in and lead and help her to Emancipation.

Divorce from the parents!!!!