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My Daughters Best Friend Isn’T Talking To Her!
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My daughters best friend isn’t talking to her!
Hi everyone I need some advice. I have a 14-year-old daughter who is really good friends with a girl at school, however over the last couple of weeks in the holidays she’s turned quite mean and is now excluding her at school. I’m really cross with this girl and would love to challenge her about it, obviously in a calm manner however my daughter doesn’t want this and she doesn’t want any of us to intervene. She was bullied previously in her primary school and we had to change schools so it is heartbreaking to see this happening to her and I really don’t know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Hi everyone I need some advice. I have a 14-year-old daughter who is really good friends with a girl at school, however over the last couple of weeks in the holidays she’s turned quite mean and is now excluding her at school. I’m really cross with this girl and would love to challenge her about it, obviously in a calm manner however my daughter doesn’t want this and she doesn’t want any of us to intervene. She was bullied previously in her primary school and we had to change schools so it is heartbreaking to see this happening to her and I really don’t know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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I agree with don't interfere, I know it's painful as I had a daughter and would feel the same way when she was growing up but in harsh reality this is all part of life - I had similar issues when I was at school as I bet did most people and had periods of unhappiness but there was absolutely nothing my mother could have done about it except make it worse. Unfortunatel
08:41 Wed 11th Apr 2018
My daughter is 14 and her friends don't actually want her in their 'friend group' so I understand how you feel about this.
My daughters difference is that she has Autism and the other girls don't understand her behaviour is because of this (she doesn't interact much and just sort of lingers on the side lines).
My daughter has other issues around being bullied (it is now a game to goad her into a meltdown reaction) but as to your daughters 'friends' I would suggest just monitoring the situation for a while. At that age they can fight like cats and dogs and then be besties. They are fickle creatures.
You may be sensitive to the situation because of previous bullying so I understand you wanting to jump on this quickly but honestly just keep an eye on it for a while.
Has this girl been round for tea or to play or anything? Why not invite her round and see how they interact.
My daughters difference is that she has Autism and the other girls don't understand her behaviour is because of this (she doesn't interact much and just sort of lingers on the side lines).
My daughter has other issues around being bullied (it is now a game to goad her into a meltdown reaction) but as to your daughters 'friends' I would suggest just monitoring the situation for a while. At that age they can fight like cats and dogs and then be besties. They are fickle creatures.
You may be sensitive to the situation because of previous bullying so I understand you wanting to jump on this quickly but honestly just keep an eye on it for a while.
Has this girl been round for tea or to play or anything? Why not invite her round and see how they interact.
We went through this with my daughter (now in her 30s) while she was that age.
She was in a group of 4 or 5 other girls at school, and every so often one the "gang" was excluded from the group for some reason or other.
Then the next week the excluded one was back in, and a different girl was excluded.
It was upsetting for the excluded one at the time, but then a week later they were back in and happy again.
This is all part of growing up and learning to deal with other people and making and keeping friends.
Dont interfere, she has to learn as she may get similar problems at college or even in the work place in the future.
She was in a group of 4 or 5 other girls at school, and every so often one the "gang" was excluded from the group for some reason or other.
Then the next week the excluded one was back in, and a different girl was excluded.
It was upsetting for the excluded one at the time, but then a week later they were back in and happy again.
This is all part of growing up and learning to deal with other people and making and keeping friends.
Dont interfere, she has to learn as she may get similar problems at college or even in the work place in the future.
good advice here and above
//Dont interfere, she has to learn as she may get similar problems at college or even in the work place in the future.//
- blimey struck a cord - two years between skool and uni - I didnt make one friend ! on work placement. [me - fifty y ago] Couldnt wait to get to uni .....
//Dont interfere, she has to learn as she may get similar problems at college or even in the work place in the future.//
- blimey struck a cord - two years between skool and uni - I didnt make one friend ! on work placement. [me - fifty y ago] Couldnt wait to get to uni .....
I agree with don't interfere, I know it's painful as I had a daughter and would feel the same way when she was growing up but in harsh reality this is all part of life - I had similar issues when I was at school as I bet did most people and had periods of unhappiness but there was absolutely nothing my mother could have done about it except make it worse. Unfortunately kids growing up can be very mean.
Hello Everyone, Sorry for the delay in replying. Thank you all for your valued and honest responses. Just an update on the situation. I didn't interfere and just made myself available to listen when needed. My daughter has also attended a counsellor a couple of times since and has gained good advice on how to cope. She is still having some difficulties but is showing amazing strength and resilience. Fingers crossed she gets over this hurdle. Thank you all again
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