Raising Children As Gender Neutral – Part 2

[naomi24]

How does that work? At some time the child is bound to discover that there are boys and there are girls – and that they are not the same - so when a child asks the question “What am I?”, what does the enlightened parent answer? Do they lie and say ‘You’re neither’, and if so is that, in effect, denying the child its true identity?

I’m inclined to think that in their determination to allow their children to ‘be who they are’, progressive parents are in danger of raising a generation of very confused people.

This child is, apparently, neither boy nor girl, but ‘They-By’.

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/theyby-gender-neutral-child-parents-raise-couple-kyl-myers-zoomer-a8286876.html

[Jackdaw33]

You could have chosen a different title. Now I'm confused.

[Old_Geezer]

It's all very daft. If folk don't know they may isolate. Kids have enough issues being accepted by peers as it is without making your child seem strange.

[ummmm]

There are always parents who take things too far, imo.

[naomi24]

It is a different title - it's part 2.

[ummmm]

Kids are easily accepted by their peers. Discrimination comes later on.

[douglas9401]

Time was when you had to actually know one of these frootloops to be infected by their twaddle.
Now it's there for all to see leaving all the feeble minded right-on with a hook on which to hang their aspirations for a better world.

[237SJ]

Interesting that the reporter said "Zoomer is already acknowledging the differences in people, calling men on the street "Dada" as they resemble HIS father"

[jim360]

There are degrees of "gender neutral" parenting, clearly. The basic principle, I think, is fine, as long as it's not aggressively enforced. But it's hard to judge from a distance. You'd have to live with Zoomer [to be honest, I'd be more worried about the name] for a long time to see if they were unhappy, or maladjusted, or "pressured" into denying their own identity, and so on.

But if raising "gender neutral" merely means allowing a child more freedom to play with the toys they like, or to wear the clothes they like**, and so on, without subconsciously guiding their choice, then I don't see the harm in that.

** Up to not spoiling them, of course.

[ummmm]

My son used to wear clothes pegs in his hair.

[douglas9401]

Was he called Linus?

[Voltage]

or peggy ;-)

[ummmm]

HaHa....

It became normal. I took him to the pub once (child friendly) without even realising he still had the pegs in his hair.

[atalanta]

Tell the child about chromosomes. " You have XX chromosomes. A child with those chromosomes eventually develops into a woman" or
" You have XY chromosomes. A child with those chromosomes develops into a man" and then leave it there.

[Cloverjo]

No one ever asks what they are. Kids instinctively know what they are and what girls and boys are.

[Islander]

So upon delivery the midwife will shout , " Congratulations it's a baby" World has gone mad.

[ummmm]

No...just a few people in it.

[cassa333]

I agree with Jim in as much if it is a case of not inflicting existing stereotypes on children. Ie clothes and toys then fine but when it goes to the extremes is when it becomes too much. Which is the case with all extremism per sa.

As I said on the other thread I would like to see the outcomes of this sort of parenting. I imagine they become even more liberal than their parents.??

But (as I said in the other thread as well) what about the kids who were allowed to determine their schooling. Choseing lessons, what they learnt and when. Free thinking education and all that. The outcomes for that would be interesting as well.

[mushroom25]

// " You have XX chromosomes. A child with those chromosomes eventually develops into a woman" or
" You have XY chromosomes. A child with those chromosomes develops into a man" //

modern surgery and endocrinology have kinda rendered that meaningless.

[NoMercy]

I'm just trying to imagine the Surgeon who whipped my son out saying, "Congratulations. It's a They-By."

[Sqad]

mushroom

"modern surgery and endocrinology have kinda rendered that meaningless."

has it?.......how?