Sorry To Have To Ask Regarding This....

[dunnitall]

I'm in a crisis in my miserable life and I really need support and help which I don't like asking for. Does anyone know a really good or reasonable web site...or rather virtual group who I might find support from please?

I really feel it's the long drawn out spiral to passing.... None of us know for sure of course but I don't think I can take much more of this. I'm too much of a coward to do anything to end this existence....I could never do it...I want to leave but I can't so have to suffer this misery of an existence.

I apologise for this post as it's not really me like this. Stiff upper lip and all but this time I think enough is enough. Thank you for your tolerance.... I just need a little tlc I guess and it's not easy asking for it. Xx

[Tilly2]

What is making you so miserable, Dunnitall?

[Mamyalynne]

It's never easy to reach out and admit you're struggling, but you have and that's a major first step.


There are many websites and forums that aim to help those who are weary,depressed sick or in pain.

Talking will help.

What do you struggle with the most?

[ummmm]

Use this site to talk.

Do you live alone?

[Zacs-Master]

I think you'd have to say a little more about the specifics of your crisis, dunnitall, for anyone to make any meaningful suggestions. I'm really sorry you feel this way and hope you get the help you need.

[Tilly2]

Please share what it is. There are a lot of us on here who will 'listen' and try to help.

[marval]

I am sorry to hear you feel like this.

Please feel free to talk on here, there is always someone to lend an ear
and offer advice.

[fraser]

You need to find people to talk to, I did at my local pub I still feel down and useless but going and being with people won't cure the problem but its lessen it a bit even if just go and sit on your own listening to other people someone strike up a conversation. All the best.

[dunnitall]

Thanks for your response. Mainly it's severely ill health which is incurable...not cancer.... But something they can do little about because it's a little known condition, I am married but he is much older...suffers ill bad health himself but has always been quite a selfish person.... I've been the opposite. Anyway it's all at crisis point.... I just need to talk to others who have experienced the slings and arrows I guess..... I'm not good at this as I'm a born 'survivor' and always have been so it's not easy.

Sorry guys....I shall probably feel different tomorrow I hope but nothing is going to get better....my health is going downhill and life has changed so much and ever will now.

If you do know of a group who actually do deal with people like me I'd really appreciate it...thank you xx

[Tilly2]

Can you get any medical help for your apparently degenerative condition, Dunnitall?

Your physical health is obviously impacting heavily on your mental health.

[Mamyalynne]

Agree with Tilly, search for a forum dedicated to your condition - very unlikely you'll be alone in wanting to talk.

[albaqwerty]

Phone all sorts of places, from your GP, Social Work, AgeUK to ask if they know of or can point you in the direction of a group which may help, not necessarily regarding your specific health condition but people of similar ilk.

We're here if you need to chat - even change your username for this purpose if that would be comfier?
No-one will judge.

Am just so sorry you are feeling so down due to all sorts of things xx

[pastafreak]

Have you tried a Google search for support groups for your specific condition? There's so much available, it's often just a matter of connecting with like minded or those who are experiencing the same condition. Never be afraid or embarrassed about asking for help...it's the first step for support.

[rowanwitch]

Dunnital, most conditions have online support groups, just Google the condition followed by support. I would also suggest asking your gp for advice and maybe help and respite care for your husband to give you time to look after yourself. I wish you well but good wishes can only go so far. Even Samaritans can help as they are very good at finding support for people, signposting to other organisations is something they can do.

[Mamyalynne]

There's a Web Community here you could start with, if it is relevant.

https://www.blf.org.uk/support-for-you/web-community

[Theland]

You are very brave taking the first step just by talking.
Many including me been there. Am still there. Always need support, but it's not weakness its you like us needing help. Talking therapy can help so talk lots of lovely people here to listen and help an d advise. Try to open up a bit more if you feel up to it but no pressure.
You, like me, are loved on here and amongst friends.

[dunnitall]

I can't believe this!! This site keeps signing me out and not letting me answer!! Jeez....crazy stuff. Tilly no not really with help, I've become so disabled physically in just the last few months I can't believe it's taken the toll it has. I have voluntary had to stop driving because if physical limitations.... Every thing I do I'm breathless and can't cope.... It was never like this.... And I never expected anything like this. I keep hoping things will go back to how it was but knowing this condition it's not going to.... I think that's what devastating for me.

Anyway, no doubt I will come up 'back to normal' I don't give in easily but today has been the pits...and I'm struggling big time. Maybe tomorrow with be a brighter day...even talking on here has helped a little. I've always known this is a brill site when help is needed or just words of comfort.... I'm grateful of thst as have many others before me xx

[Tilly2]

Dunnitall, you need help with your physical condition.

I know it's a bit of a cliche on here but you do need to see your G.P.

Your physical health is paramount.

[dunnitall]

Aww thanks everyone I'm off now I will certainly look at things you've suggested and links you've given me. So much appreciated.... Sometimes one can't see the wood for the trees eh... How kind and understanding you are. Night xx

[Tilly2]

Goodnight, Dunnitall. I hope you sleep well.

[marval]

Goodnight Dunnitall, hope you can get the help you need.

Try to have a good nights sleep.