Mother-in-law Drama

[samantha_el]

Please..I am really depressed and stressed out.I have been staying with my boyfriend and his parents for 1year.I have been with him for 2 years.Previously, he had a girlfriend with whom he went out with for almost 3 years and his mother took a "good liking" to her. They broke up 3yeras ago and she still brings his ex into our life. About 4 months ago, she invited her to come and stay at the house with my boyfriend and I still staying there. Obviously I had no say as it is not my house but I did have an outrage. She left only after 2 months. One christmas we gave his mother a beautiful frame with a photo of me and my boyfriend together in it.She has never put it up. She said it is in the cupboard as she doesnt want pictures of her childrens girlfriends up in her house. Just the other night I saw that she had put up a picture of his ex-girlfriend up in her room. I know that she did that to get back at me for what I dont know. I am a kind, caring, loving and decent girl so there is nothing to hate about me. I really dont know what to do. We want to move out. But my boyfriend doesnt want to rent, and at the moment we cant buy a house. I really need some advice. Please can you help me...

[Brinjal]

She sounds a miserable old cow. Do you haveparents you could both move in with. Life is too short to be miserable. You arent married why do you put up with the old bat. Does your boyfriend stick up for you?. You need to decide if you love him enough to put up with this indefinietly. Even when you do move she will probably still be mean at family functions. Not a fun thought and interferring when you hve kids.

[woofgang]

I don't mean to be rude or difficult, but the problem that you face is her gaff, her rules (I am assuming that neither of you pay rent?) have a think about what you really want from your life, not just now, sit down and talk to your bf then take action. I wish you a better new year.

[undercovers]

bf doesn't want to rent - or bf doesn't want to leave mummy... sounds a bit suspect to me, forget the mother and concentrate on the boyfriend, as he is the one that is meant to be there for you, personally i would have a fit if my mother invited one of my ex's to stay at her house even more so if i was there and impossibly so if my girlfriend was also there - thats why i know my old ma wouldn't do it, as she wouldn't want to upset me (even if she hated the current gf)... so talk to bf and insist that he talks to her about her problem, start paying her rent (even a token amount so you don't feel you owe her something) and make the by re-think renting - yes its a lot of money but i'm guessing you are both in your 20's now so its probably gone time to fly the nest...

[Robinia]

Oh dear, this is going to sound horribly harsh but if bf wanted to be with you badly enough and away from his obviously controlling mother he'd give his last penny to rent somewhere. Sorry, but I've taken a very long time to realise that men who don't have the courage to take control of a situation like that will never change.

[funnywebsite]

The only answer is probably to move out and rent. You are depressed living with the old cow and life is too short. Get some life back and try and find somewhere else. If he won't move then leave him behind. No boyfriend that loves you will refuse to move out if that is what you want.