Does my partners ex have any claim on his house?

[Schlomo78]

Hey, just something that has been on my mind, my Partner has been thinking of selling his house and moving the 100 miles to live with me as we have a baby on the way and both our family is here. We were thinking of renting it but the income would not be worth the stress and hassle of it all. I wondered if anyone knows if he sells it does his ex girlfriend (the mother of his child) have claim to any money he makes from it- they were never married and he never lived with her or she with him in said house. I just wondered if she could benefit from it as she obviously is bringing up his child?

Any help on this matter would be gratefully received as we need to know where we stand on this before we sell and find out she can nab half of it!

Cheers :O)

[Schlomo78]

At no point in my question did I ask anyone for their opinion on anything except where he stood in the eyes of the law.

If you had read my earlier replies to Nikita then you would have seen that I stated quite clearly that it was she that left him when she was pregnant, not he that left her. In fact he tried hard for over a year to resume the relationship with her as he did not go into the process of deciding to have a child with someone only to be split up with the mother. When she left him he was heartbroken. This was over six years ago, so he has not 'gone on to have another' as you phrase it and has certainly not come to the decision of having another child lightly, in fact he was unsure he would ever have another child with anyone as he did not want to go through what he went through with her again.

As for marriage, on the contrary, he very much wants to marry me -would marry me tomorrow if I agreed- and we are engaged to be married early next year. I had all the good luck I ever needed in life the day I met him.

[Schlomo78]

I would also like to add as an afterthought that never since I have been on Answerbank have I felt that I am being judged by anyone or that I have to defend myself and my morals against anyone until these last few posts.

I am not here to get into an arguement with anyone or to have to try to prove that what I say is true. I posted a question on here to get some friendly,helpful and impartial advice (which I have always had in abundance before~thanks guys!) and not be made to feel that I am unreasonable, nor to have people who do not know me or the situation in hand and do not know the facts of the matter judge me.

[plonker]

I am sorry that you are upset. It is the situation that you are in that is been evaluated, before any answer is given. If I said Yes the house is all his, I may be giving the wrong answer.

Sometimes we just want to hear what we expect.Yes/No. Can you imagine how complicated every separation and divorce must be? How different every story is? So, how can anyone give an answer that is 'correct'? How does anyone know the answer when several people are involved? A question like like that only you or your partner can answer because you know all the facts..
As I stated before, if any of those situations did not apply, then it makes it clearer to understand and it looks a lot easier for him to sell the house without worries. The law is not so straightforward where relationships and children are involved. Hence we have laws that have to put children in the forefront. That is why Nikita asked all those questions. If you were to see a lawyer he would ask the very same questions whether you like it or not, to assess where everyone stands. No one wants to know your details, it is madness to expect an answer just like that. And I am not here to argue either but to put my point across just like you.

[Schlomo78]

yes, I see what you are saying but Nikita was asking questions that had been answered already, maybe she did not read my post all the way through or maybe I didn't it state clearly ... I just wanted to know if he had any reason to have to take into account an amount to give to her as things are hard enough as it is. I was looking to see whether anyone had been through the same or knew of someone who had. I got a definitive answer in the guise of sweet lisajane, so now I know.

I would never try to stop his child from having anything she was entitled to, be it monies from property,whatever, like I say we just need to know for peace of mind so we know how much he will get definitivly from the property. I am not having a dig at single mums either in any way as my mother and sister both had to struggle to bring children up on their own. Perhaps my hormones are wreaking havoc with my sensibilities, I have been short and snappy with a lot of people lately, but sometimes it feels as though my partner is being judged for something that was completely beyond his control and by all accounts nearly destroyed him (their split). Obviously I feel very protective towards him, more so now than ever now I am carrying his child, I just think he has had a rum deal of it and want to try to make up for it as he is the most kind, loving, selfless and caring person I have ever known. See, now i'm getting weepy! Enough with the hormones already!

[plonker]

My hormones go up the creek too and I can sound terrible, especially late at night typing away on this addictive site. Sometimes I wished I hadnt said those things at the spur of the moment and the annoying thing is you cannot delete them. I wake up the next morning and think - did i type that? But I still do it especiall when it involves men. I have a fantastic, patient husband I hasten to add.

Sorry again and you sound really nice and I really hope the man in your life realises what a gem you are to him.

[Schlomo78]

No probs plonker, I am the same as you, I look back at what I've written and think 'oh * *****, thats a bit harsh...I think the thing also with writing things is that they can sometimes come across worse than you meant them to, without having the inflections you do in speech. I understand where you are coming from, there are indeed some swines of men out there-some of whom I have had the misfortune to be in relationships with- and now I have met this great guy I just want to make him as happy as he makes me. Please accept my apology in return!

Take care. ;O)