how do you mend a broken heart?

[fideldyfee]

cos i actually think am gonna die if i dont find a cure soon... please someone help! x

[whiskeysheri]

Aw, honey! Big hugs...... I don't know the answer unfortunately but if you need to talk, MSN me if you'd like? xxx

[garfunkeland]

time mends a broken heart its just a matter of how long thats the question.try keeping yourself busy, be around friends but there aint no cure just that time is a great healer.

[dancealot13]

;) You will heal. You will feel happy again, I promise. Having a broken heart is one of the worst feelings in the world. I felt, alone, abandoned, depressed, scared, unsure of where I was going or where I was going to end up. It's like you loose direction, and drive.

But it will not be that way forever. You need to call on ALL the things in life that bring you pleasure. Everylast one of them, friends, family, nature, shopping, art, entertainment, reading, writing....whatever they may be for you and do all of it!!! Find the strength you had before this heart break. Your strength never leaves you,..it just gets hidden. Use your strength and wisdom to guide you.

You will heal, and things will get better.

[Rubyrose]

Fideldyfee - My heart truly goes out to you hun and I know EXACTLY what you are feeling as I went through it about 5 months ago. There is noway to get through it except take each day as it comes. I know loads of people will tell you that time is a great healer and you will get over it and you don't believe it in the state you are in but trust me, its true. I found that all I wanted to do was sit around and cry and I just wanted the earth to swallow me. There was nothing that made me feel better. I wasn't eating. I couldn'y sleep. But oneday you realise you didn't think about it as much and you laughed and you didn't cry as much. It gets easier.

Try (as hard as it may be) to surround yourself with friends. Listen to upbeat music and watch happy movies. I found that writing things down helped me. Almost like a diary of thoughts. Now I look back at them and I can't believe how different I feel.

I take it your ex broke up with you as you are the one who is heartbroken. Believe it or not, from this moment on you are building an emotional wall around yourself. You will add to this wall everytime someone hurts you emotionally. No-one will ever hurt you this much again.. I can promise you that. You will never let anyone in as much as you let your ex in. Because your brain has registered that they hurt you so much and it will now be protecting you. I'm not saying you won't love again.. of course you will. But you won't love in a wreckless way.

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[Rubyrose]

have a book you can read, which did really help me. Its called 'How to get your ex back' but its actually full of secret tips on how to move on. Its great and really does help. Its an Ebook so I can send it to you via email if you are interested. Send me an email at [email protected] if you want a copy.

I know a million people will tell you 'there is plenty more fish in the sea' and you will want to smack every person who says it coz right now your heart is broken and you cant even think about loving someone else. You don't have to think about it.. it will happen when it happens. Take some time to find out what you want and who you are.

Love Ruby xx

[maxi29]

As ever Shakespeare has some wise words. As Rosalind points out: "Men have died from time to time, and worms have eaten them, but not from love."

Hope your heart heals soon.

[joby1]

I had my son early (17), I split with his Dad, met someone else who strung me along for 5 sad years, then totally broke my heart, (god I could cheerfully kill him). But 1 year after that I got back with my son's Dad, two more beautiful kids, 12 years married this july, so I think the answer to your question is TIME...x.

[bobtheturkey]

try super glue its on special offer at b&q, i remember sticking my fingers together once it was a ruddy pantomine that i can tell you

[Bowieblue]

There are so many people that have felt the way you do but it feels like you are the only one - I know because I did. You think no one could ever feel as bad. Late at night and early morning are the worst times. If you have someone to talk to and they will listen - do it, or go to Relate if not, even going just once will help. I'm still hurting after six months but IT IS NOT AS BAD NOW. That searing pain has gone and its just anger.

You will go through all these stages. In time - someone will be around that deserves your love. Dont waste your tears on someone that doesnt.

[fideldyfee]

thanks guys so much for your kind words and help, i really appreciate it!

[Spcl22]

fideldyfee.....sending you a HUGE hug.... I've found that the best thing that helps you mend a broken heart is time.... rubbish answer, I know...but its true. But you've got to believe in yourself too. Keep yourself busy, book your diary up weeks in advance, have things 'to look forward to', you really gotta try not to think negative things about yourself...make plans for fun fun fun.... Once you start to smile, your heart will smile too....promise..... Take care..Josie Jo xx