Recent pregnancy

[pingping]

A close friend has just found out she is pregnant and is having her 3 month scan this Friday. I wanted some advice on whether to send a a congrats card and some flowers - or is this not done until the baby is born? It's her first and I've heard the miscarriage rate is quite high for first time pregnancies, so I don't want to jinx anything. I'm new to all this so any advice welcome!!

[kick3m0n]

if it's a 3 month scan, and there are no problems picked up at her scan, then you're fairly safe to send a congrats card or flowers. I'm sure she would think that was a lovely idea from you :o) Most miscarriages will happen in the first 12 weeks, which is why people often don't announce they are pregnant till they are in the second trimester (weeks 13-26).

[4getmenot]

I;ve always thought it is bad luck to send anything before baby is born. Or if you are pregnant sending a card to someone from yourself and bump. But up to you :-)

[chazza]

I would wait until the baby is born if i were you, even after the 3 month scan there are many things that can go wrong

[devilwoman]

i think it might be better to wait untill her baby is safely born before sending cards ect, though it would be nice just to give her flowers as a friend just to let her know you care.

[redcrx]

My partner and I received a congratulations card when i was about 16 weeks pregnant and i have to say that i thought it strange. I would normally wait until after baby was born.

That doesnt mean that you cant send her a card and Im sure flowers or chocolates or any spoiling will go down very well.

[pingping]

Thanks to everyone who gave me an answer, I think I'll give her some flowers, but forget about the card until after the birth.

[boobesque]

i got a couple of congrats cards when my pregnancy was confirmed, and i was quite pleased!

[unruliejulie]

I'd say wait till she gets the all clear at the scan and then do it. Nice thought, i would have loved that!

[888sally888]

I would take her out for a nice low key lunch and maybe a smoothie to go with it. Just knowing you care and are there is acknowlegement enough I am sure.

[Bohne]

I would have found it really awkward getting cards at that time.

Especially as it is still a pretty critical time, and lots of things can (naturally) still go wrong!