abortion

[applebee]

If anyone could share a little bit of how they felt during and after an abortion it would be great. I am considering this as an option right now, but I am really nervous physically and especially emotionally.

[girlygirl]

Babe I can't offer you advice as I have never thankfully been in such a heart wrenching dilemma.

I want to however, wish you luck and happiness in whatever decision you choose.

Just do whats right for you and think of everything and how your life will be whatever the final outcome.

Take care.

XXXXX

[dilf]

you wont make the wrong decision and you will cope in as far as you will always say" what if" to your self - as in" what if i had/ hadn't". either way you will cope

if i have any right to an opinion [ i have lived on both sides of the fence] id say you will not regret keeping the baby but life will become a hellovalot harder
best wishes

[Pippa68]

Everyone copes in different ways. I have been in this situation & also have children, but I feel I made the right decision for all concerned ~ therefore although I felt a degree of sadness, and it will be something I never forget (although not something I think about every day) It wasn't too traumatic.

I had excellent before & after care, and felt safe in the knowledge that I had made the decision on my own. It is hard to live with, it is far from easy & a taboo subject, it is also far too easy to feel alone. Counselling is available to you ~ but please be assured that even though you may feel incredibly emotional about it afterwards, it doesn't mean you made the wrong decision.

Physical recovery is usually quite quick (you may need a couple of days to feel 'normal' after the anaesthetic) and blood loss should be like a normal period..maybe a little longer.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do ~ I feel for you, truly. xxx

[little coojy]

its one of the hardest desisions you will ever have to make, my experiance be it many years ago was that i didn't recieve any after help and felt very guilty and sad for a long time, but hopefully things have changed now, i awoke from the op to hear the nurses disgussing the price of nappies and the girl in the next bed to me crying, she was told to shut up by the nurses, i must add that the other lady and i were having the op not cause we didn't want the babies but because of serious problems, i hope you find your answers and wish you all the best xx

[alice1]

I so feel for you - its such a dilemma but you have to make the decision that is right for you and you have to make it alone really. You are NOT killing a child! You are preventing something you are not ready for (medical or emotional or even financial reasons all apply). Have had termination and ectopic and it is important to allow some grieving time - then move on. Make decision, know your reasons, get drunk, cry, move on. Big hug - you are being intelligent and responsible and not having a child just because your partner, religion etc dictates such. x

[cliffsweb]

it makes me so sad that people can decide at the drop of a hat whether there baby will live or die, whatever happened to contraception, you dont have to get pregnat if you dont want to.

[Pippa68]

Decide 'at the drop of a hat'?

Piffle.

[havinmysay]

cliffsweb u r bang out of order if u ant got anythin helpful to say to this girl dont say it at all as if she isnt going through enough keep your opinions 2 yourself. msg 4 applebee u no whats best 4 u xxx

[cliffsweb]

i did'nt insult any1 its just plain old common sense, is she a child or an adult, as adults have responsibilities,
and what is wrong with contraception?

[applebee]

Ok, well first of all I am going through college, I'm definately over 18, so I believe you can classify me as an adult. I would also like to say that...YES...I was using contraception...there is a reason why people cant say its 100% effective. I am certainly NOT making this decision at the drop of a hat. I am thinking about it. Taking counsil from others, and examining my feelings.

I really wanna thank everybody who gave me encouragement and suggestions!

[havinmysay]

it takes 2 to make a baby so men should think about contraception aswell i take it your a man

[Pippa68]

By implying that this decision is taken at the 'drop of a hat' is extremely insulting.

Of course there may be some people who do, but the fact that applebee has come here to ask advice shows that she isn't. Only when you can come here and hand on heart say you haven't made any mistakes in your life can you even think about judging.

Your post has absolutely nothing to do with the question ~ this thread is not asking for people's views on abortion.

[MariaSangria]

Please, Please, don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So many people would love to have a baby, myself included. I would graciously take the child. I beg of you, don't disreguard the innocent life that God has placed inside you. I would happily addopt it today!!!

[Pippa68]

Sorry, but your answer isn't welcome.

[havinmysay]

i agree pippa, u have got to take it into consideration that applebee may not be ready to be a mother and has got to think about herself above an unborn child. has any1 heard off applebee recently?

[Pippa68]

I think I saw her posting on new threads ~ she isn't a greenie any more :o)

applebee, please stop by and let us know how you are & please disregard the anti abortion answers and the one mentioning God. There really is no need for those!