Baby in parent's bedroom

[Yorkie580]

Is it true that baby's should have their cots in the same room as their parents to begin with? If so, how long should they be in the same room?

[boobesque]

you dont have to have them in the room, but most parents, myself included found it easier and very reassuring. It is recommended that they stay in your room for the first 6 months.

[crete]

believe latest recomendations from health professional is between 6 months and a year in parents room.

[kick3m0n]

yep, minimum 6 months is the recommendation. Statistically, it reduces the risk of cot death apparently. As a breast feeding Mum, it just made life a h3ll of a lot easier as well.

[redcrx]

It is advised that babies sleep in parents room until 6 months. They regulate their breathing by hearing their parents breathing apparently.

My son was always disturbed my partners (and mine i have to add) snoring though so he was only about 1 month old when he moved to his own room and slept well from there on.

I found it easier to feed him in his own room as i wasnt tempted to fall asleep with him in my bed which can be extremely dangerous.

Sadly sharing a room does not completely eradicate cot death as my friends sadly discovered.

[Pippa68]

Good point, redcrx.

My babies slept in my room for about 3 months ~ although I do have to say that as I was breastfeeding I *gasp* usually had them in bed with me...

Each to their own..I wouldn't slam anyone for wanting to move their babies into their own room at any age, as long as they felt comfortable with it.

[electricblue]

For me i felt more comfortable and at ease having all 3 of mine sleeping in my room(not all at once though)worked for me and wouldnt have had it any other way,its personal choice really i guess!

[Goodsoulette]

Me too Pippa both my boys shared my bed for first six months and both ove deasily into own bed and room,

[Ms.Hijinx]

I let mine stay with me until they slept through the night so that was one at 10 weeks and one at 6 weeks but you do what your instincts tell you hun, have a good day

[lynlockwood]

My first was with me for about 4 months but my second lasted one night! None of us seemed to be able to sleep and she went very happily into her own room. Follow your instincts.

[beejaybee]

There is no right & wrong. It`s what you feel is right. I know of a couple who had their kid in their room then bed until she was 6years old. Not surprising, it broke the relationship up. The so called experts have different opinions re everything to do with babies, but I think mum`s instinct is the best.

[Goodsoulette]

I am really shocked at the amount of women here that didnt have there young baby in their room with them ( and also not judging or trying not to).

The guidelines are there for a reason, you keep your baby in you room with you for the first 6 months cause this is when the risk of cot death is greatest, if your baby starts to struggle to breath you can help him/her or be more likely to hear them. I know its tiring, but I solely breast fed my baby (no solids) till 6 months which meant up every 2 hours for 30 minutes, it would have been really easy to give in and give him solids but I know this can cause problems with babies stomach and is related to obesity in later life. I would just think if something happened to my baby then I would want to know I did everything I possibly could and not have any doubt in my mind.
Again this is just me and I am really not criticising anyone else as I dont think its dangerous but if you are going to have a monitor you might as well have the crib in your room.

[noxlumos]

We have our babies sleeping bed with us which is now frowned upon after years of saying it was fine, and the present one is 3 months old and we never get a disturbed night really.I'd worry like mad if a baby was in another room personally but then I think you have to be sensible about all information/ guidelines/ "new" discoveries etc as a lot of guidance depends upon your evaluation of statistics. For example I am happy that our children are safe sleeping in our bed, despite new findings that argue that in some cases.Just go with what feels right an comfortable with you.

[Yorkie580]

Thanks everyone... it's (hopefully) an issue we'll be dealing with over the next year.

R

[Sausagegirl]

Despite the 6 months guideline, we moved our daughter within three or four weeks for our own sanity. We were just getting no sleep at all because every time she siffled or snuffled or wriggled or jiggled, we woke up. She was sleeping through from two weeks old and we couldn't see why we shouldn't too!
So, we moved the moses basket into her room, next to ours, and just made sure we kept both doors open.

[oliveguy]

no disrespect but i aint gonna read the replies cos i feel really strongly about this one i have 3 kids none were in our room ,i have a very good friend who made the mistake of having hers in the same room and she ended up not being able to get her out she ended up having a single bed at the side of hers and had to hold her daughters hand, which played havoc with her marriage. mine are in bed at 7pm every night. loads of friends have had loads of problems and are amazed when they see ours toddle up to bed no arguements. We just took advice and thought we dont want ours to be so attached its not fair on both parties xx good luck