What could be the problem?

[Gracexx]

My boyfriend looks after his 2 year old son 3 nights a week, because his son sufferes from a little seperation anxiety he often wakes in the night and needs comforting which is no problem at all. However once he settles down and goes back to sleep my boyfriend becomes very aggressive towards me, it has become quite frightening, as he can be abusive and threatening! He will verbally attack me and often tell me to 'get out' in the early hours of the morning!! The problem is in the morning he will have no recolection of what happened and be very apologetic. I understand its difficult looking after his son and working full time, but this behaviour is starting to worry me! Is there anything I can suggest to him or anything that could cause this behaviour, i've suggested not staying over at night but we only see eachother 3 days a week as it is!..any suggestions would be a great help. thanx

[maximo]

Does he realy not have any memory of what he did? In that case, there is a very small chance he could be sleepwalking? Maybe he falls asleep while waiting for his son to settle, and actually sleep walk/talk when he goes back to bed....I'm not sure really, it's quite strange.

[s3ahors3]

sounds to me like theres more to this than just his son waking and its stressing him how many nights does his son stay with you? didn't quite understand as you said you only see each other 3 days and as far as his aggression this really concerns me as no one should have to put up with that its not right and it seems he's able to get away with it

[Gracexx]

I thought the same at first, maybe he was saying he can't remember to simply get away with it but he's so calm and relaxed during the day, he's like a completely different person at night, it baffles me! We see little of eachother during the week because I work late evenings and still live with my parents and he has his own house, it's typical that the nights I do get to see him fall on the same nights he has his son.x

[IggyB]

when i was a younger (17 - 22ish) i used to occasionally suffer from this problem - if i was woken up i would apparently become aggressive and rude but come the morning I had no recollection of my behaviour, whilst this was going on I would appear to be fully awake and perform complicated tasks but my responses and reasoning would become illogical and angry if challenged, this occurred most frequently when I had been drinking and in those situations I generally asked people never to wake me no matter where I had fallen asleep or avoided drinking in certain circumstances. I seemed to grow out of it for some reason and can�t really offer any advice how to deal with the problem but I just wanted to confirm that it is indeed possible he has no recollection of these events and doesn�t mean the things he says � if I got in that state the people around me generally opted for ignoring me completely and not interacting in any way this usually had the effect of putting me back to sleep again.

[Captain Swab]

He might have some serious psychological problems. I would suggest he sees a doctor about it.