My stepson was placed in foster care wrongly by Social Services, they accused the mother (wrongly I might add) of certain things and she had all her kids removed, youngest son (my hubbys child) was placed in foster care, we imediatly went for custody whilst the bio mother was investigated. Social Services ruined that womans life, we eventually got custody after stepson had been in care for 18 months (he was 3 at the time), however the point I am trying to make is that we do not know the circumstances of why that woman had her children removed, there have been hundreds of cases of wrongful removal by Social Services yet here I see people assuming that the monther must be in the wrong. Plus the mother is right to question why the foster carer was not keeping an eye on the daughter and why there was not either a cover on the pool or a barrier around it, after all these foster carers are supposed to be better suited to care for children then the people whome the children have been removed from.
I can also understand the mothers conflicting feelings towards the foster carer, there were many times when stepson was in care that I alternated between hating the woman who had my stepson (she bought him up contray to his dad's wishes, be bacame very spoilt in her care) and also understanding that it does take a special type of person to take on children like that. I will say though in our case the foster carer has never been in contact since stepson was placed with us full time.
Maybe we should not judge unless we have the full facts.