Concentration / behaviour of a 3 year old boy

[SMH13]

Just asking for some advice regarding my little boy. He has just turned 3 , I think he seems to be normal. However, his preschool are monitoring him as he wont sit still at reading time or when he is in a group of children. He seems to want to be doing other things or messing around. He is okay at home with his sister. Seeing health visitor next week. Any advice appreciated, is it just me?

[jack daniels]

Ask your health visitor/doctor if there's a possibilty of him having ADT - get him tested for it.
Don't concern yourself too much, boys have less of an attention span then girls & get bored easily.
Maybe because at home there's just his sister he finds it easier to concentrate - with a class full of noisy children he gets easily distracted and the attention isn't on a 1 to 1 basis.

[jane1098]

i work with pre-school children from the ages 2-4yrs and also have a 3yr old.

when i'm reading stories to the children some of them like to sit still and listen but some others want to be playing with their other peers.

what you're explaining is the behaviour of a normal 3yr old.
i wouldn't worry.

[annie0000]

exactly what I was going to say - all kids (and adults) have differing attention spans and interests - nobody questions why some adults like to be on the go all the time and have active jobs whilst others are happy to sit in front of a pc all day, but sometimes they just want all kids to be the same. I guess it is easier for the nursery if he will sit quietly and listen at story time. I know that this ability will need to be encouraged and nurtured as going through school he will need to conform, but it is early days and there will be kids at school who have not yet mastered this art!

My son got into trouble at school when he was 5 and wasn't sitting quietly at school and they called me in to discuss and support them. i am generally very happy to support them, but to be honest I didn't know how they wanted me to reinforce this behaviour at home, because i dont really need him to sit on his bottom on a wooden floor for an hour lestening to people talk about stuff he isn't interested in. Anyway, 1 year down the line, he is teachers pet and gets the star pupil award regularly for his great behaviour, hard work and mature attitude. Just give your little boy time - it sounds to me like there are a lot more fun things to do aat nursery than listen to the story and when he doesn't have all those distractions he is fine.

[SMH13]

Thank you so much for your answers. I feel a lot better now.

You begin to feel that its happening just to you!

[ethanryan]

i have the same problem with my partner and he is 26

[SMH13]

Funny you said that his Dad is just the same !!