I sympathise with you. I have exactly the same type of hair and I've come close to shaving it off completely, tank girl style, but thankfully I don't have the courage. I do a lot of sports and so I have to wash my hair every day and I'll usually tie it back really tight until its dry after washing and yes, that is lame. I wouldn't bother too much about all these "miracle" products, believe me i've tried them and most don't even come close to what they claim to do, they're just aimed at people like you and I with the sole intention of making huge amounts of money. I find the best way to control my hair is to make sure to have it cut regularly (6 weeks at most) and have it done by a good hairdresser and make sure you tell them exactly what your hair is like.Once my hairdresser finally found out my hair was naturally curly/wavy I got the most awesome haircuts and I can now actually wear my hair down. You should always use a good conditioner (pantene for dry hair is good) I found the more expensive "frizz fighting" types actually make the hair too soft and so ultimately more frizzy. If I want to wear my hair down I wash and condition it, dry(blot) with a towel and leave it to go curly, maybe apply a little serum and just leave it to dry naturally. Your hair is prone to go curly when its wet and there are loads of products available to activate curls. Oh, also, NEVER brush curly hair, its like the ultimate sin, yes it will go frizzy if you brush it. Well, im sorry about writing an essay. I hope it helps.