Lazy Teenage Daughter

[unhappychick]

I am at my wits end with my 13 year old, I dont know where to begin with this one, she cant be bothered to wash herself, clean her teeth and put clean clothes on, I make her do it, she then chucks dirty clothes on from the day before, I pull her on it and she says there are no other jeans etc in my wardrobe when in fact there are lots! Also she has to wear a brace (a removable one) which will bring her jaw forward as its set too far back, if she doesnt wear it she will have to have an operation, half the time its never in, I have taken her tv away over this and then she does all whats asked for about 2 days..I have also told her she wont be going on school outings etc if she doesnt get her act together, but then if I do that she will spend all day in her room in front of the tv without washing and I dont think this is good for her, I try and encourage her to go out with her friends and am happy to take them to the pictures/bowling and pick them up but she doesnt want to know? I have never come across someone as lazy with no interest in anything, I have suggested dance clubs and more and she doesnt want to do it....has anyone got any suggestions to make her buck her ideas up?

[susiearrived]

All sympathies, i have a 13 year old daughter too...It sounds as if you have got locked in the negative, punishing circle.. have been there too, and it makes life miserable for you both. My daughter is I am sure unhappy, searching for who she is, not really wanting to be an adult yet one moment then wishing she was 18 the next!

I have decided to leave the negative thin alone, as I said, I think it makes us both unhappy, and I now respond with a smile or comfort or chocolate cake! whatever seems right at the time. Believe me, it is so hard, especially when they are being the offspring of Satan. But I tihkn when my daughter does this, she is seeing if I will still love her and accept her. At other times she is tryinmg to get a rise out of me, so it works on two fronts.

Keep breathing, and catch her off guard but not giving the response she is expecting!

And as you can see from the responses, you are very much not alone!

[gravitate]

send her to an orphanage