what would you do??

[jacque1986]

today i was in brum when i had a phone call telling me, i old best mate was being buried today at 2.00. i raced back and was heading to her house i didnt have long to get there, even though i aint seen this girl for years it was still very upsetting. i got there obviously not dressed for the occassion, when i was there i saw this girl, my friend who was meant to be dead, she was on the drive esterical crying and everythink i thought who had dies then i was told it was this girl, then i noticed a little coffin two white horses and carriage. this girl my old friend was just in her own bubble and probs wouldnt of even regonised me so i came away. and it come to me it must be her baby. a little girl, which i found out tonight she was 1 month old. i dont know what to do now cause i been thinking all day. shell i knock on her door even though i aint seen her for years and didnt even know she had a child. could i knock and she just say what do i want.. i dont know what to do.

[Ethel]

A sympathy card with your telephone number is the way to go.

Then she can ring you if and when she needs to.

[legend006]

Id give it a few days , an dthen id go to visit.Be ready to be turned away if shes tooo upset to see you.I think you want to see her and i thi k that you should try and see her.
I may be wrong but if you dont it might prey on your mind for yeasr.Take her a sympathy card and maybe some flowers and just telll her that though youve not been in touch for a while you stillcare and are there if you can help.


Hope this helps you

[jacque1986]

do you think a sympathy card will be to late tomorrow. or if im going to the house to post the card do i still knock on and see her in person or just post the card

[legend006]

Id at least say hello.
If its not bright then you will know and can leave.
It might help noone knows in these situations.

[jacque1986]

yeah thanks, im getting teary just reading it. dont think thats a word though but who cares.

[legend006]

Best advic edo what you feel comfortable with.And go on your own instincts.

[jacque1986]

well i regret not saying something earlier when i was there but i couldnt exactly say. erm excuse me whos died. i think i will drop by tomorrow with a card with my number in. she might not come to the door but i will give it her mom,

[Canary42]

Don't under any circumstances call on her - grieving relations often don't want such hassle (my mum didn't when my dad died, and I had the unhappy job of turning them away)

[Canary42]

Ooooops - didn't notice the date until too late - that's the trouble with related questions. Sorry everybody.