potty traning

[beckseya]

my son is 2 years old and everytime i try potty training him he refuses to sit on it, he will do a wee standing up, but he wont sit on even for a second. and the longer i try the more upset he gets. any ideas how to start him???

[suzannew2732]

dont let him get upset about it leave him a month or so then try again, by the time he's three he'll have mastered it.Its really not worth any tears his or yours!

[kags]

Totally agree with suzannew2732, don't try and force him - maybe just leave a potty lying around the house somewhere, never make any mention of it at all, and see if he takes an interest. And ignore anyone who tells you their child was potty trained by 15 months - good for them if it's true, but your child is an individual and he'll do it when it's right for him. Meanwhile, no point in turning it into a battleground as he holds the major weapon!

[zgma]

Yes, our 2-year-old was like that a month ago. We stopped pushing the issue. Now every time I take off the diaper, he wants to go to the potty (not to actually DO anything, mind you, but to have an excuse to put off getting another diaper on). Don't worry, he will eventually get interested.

[Hellion]

I agree, my son just didn't want to but I felt pressured by other people saying 'Isn't he potty trained yet?', I left it and he rewarded me by deciding when he was ready and getting it perfectly at about two and half, within a fortnight he didn't want a nappy on at night and within two weeks of deciding he was ready he was going through the night too!.

[dragonfly]

Have you thought about a trainer seat for the toilet ... I know that one of my daughters didnt like the potty either but was quite happy to sit on a trainer seat on the toilet and was well chuffed with herself and felt like a big girl lol. hope what ever you try works xx

[DixieCRL]

You could try making it a game. Turn it into to something fun, but don't push him. I saw an episode on Dr. Phil where they had the child teach his/her action figure/doll how to use the potty. When the child did it, they had a little party. You could find out if he wants a new toy and tell him he will get it as soon as he uses the potty.

[Hgrove]

The book "Toddler Taming" gives good advice, but perhaps your son is simply not ready yet.

[Bonzo 2000]

We've been there! Possibly try another potty - the existing one may be uncomfrtable. Also distraction helps - sit him inforntof the tv, or something to take his mind off it. A toilet trainer seat was also really helpful (again probably becuase of incresaed comfort). Finally, taking the bull by the horns and taking him out of nappies and straight into pants made the biggest progress. Although there were a few accidents, he soon got used to the discomfort and quickly learned to ask for the potty.

[netty.m]

have you tried sitting him on the potty in front of the telly.

[Hgrove]

Another point - they say it is better to do it in the summer.

[nrmatth]

my daughter was going pee before she was two but was scared to do anything else. i actually think it might be more uncomfortable since they usually do it in their diaper standing up or laying down. sitting would feel a little more painful since their tensing up just trying to stay on the potty. she picked out her own seat that sits on the big potty and it stayed in sight and she sat on it sometimes and got used to it, then it was just a matter of realized when she had to go and getting her on it really quick. it took longer for her to realize when she had to go and they can't hold it till they learn, so be patient and watch her cues. plus if we got her on in time we made a big show of saying bye and flushing it and she found it quite fun. plus a little step stool she could use to get up and rest her feet on made her feel more comfortable too. he'll learn in time, but trying to rush him will actual make him too tense to relax. just give him all the comforts he needs, and try to get him to sit on it while he brushes his teeth or colors and sit next to him. then when he's comfortable with the seat, try to catch him in the act and make a big fuss over him. he'll get in tune with it sooner with encouragement than training.