Rude remark or am I oversensitive?

[Cinnabon]

I have recently told my elder sister that Mr Stork is taking its time to drop a parcel off to my house. Since then anytime we talk about her children I get a response of "You don't have kids so you don't understand" Am I being oversensitive to be hurt by this comment.
Many many thanks for your replies in advance.

[pastafreak]

Umm.....Are you pregnant...or hoping to become pregnant???..Not that that matters......next time she says that just tell her that as you want your own,you are eager to learn. And as she is the closest young mum to you,then who better than she???
Other than that,she sounds a bit rude..especially if you have been trying for a long time for your own.

[Ice.Maiden]

If you're waiting for that little bundle, then yes, your sister's remarks might appear more stinging than if you'd already got it, but I agree with pasta. Ask your sister for advice, and take an interest in what she says. I don't know if you already have any children, but if not, take on board what she says, and even if you have a different approach when your own time comes, you'll be able to identify with what she's said. Good luck to you.

[Cinnabon]

Thanks for the advice. I dont have kids yet and that why I confided in her that its taking longer then I expected.
Since then the remark that she makes just hurts.
Thanks so much for the replies

[shivvy]

I reckon she is being a bit insensitive.
For anyone to say "you don't understand because . . . " discredits the other person from being able to empathise. I agree with pasta and ice when they say to have a chat with your sister. I am sure she doesn't mean to hurt but waiting for a baby to come along is an emotional time and she needs to think about that so that you can be supportive of each other.
Let us know how you get on.

[Cinnabon]

Ahh thanks so much for you advice.

[mrs.chappie]

What is jaffa syndrome?

[Cinnabon]

I appreciate your answer too maybe I do need to kinda ignore the comment or something.
But to be honest I have no idea what jaffa syndrome is????

[Ice.Maiden]

Don't ask, chappie!!!
Aww...noknow...it can be soul destroying for a woman who's waiting to get pregnant.
Cinnabon - how long've you been trying for, hun?

[shivvy]

You probably dont want to know but no.knowledge is saying jaffa and meaning that your partner is seedless. Another rude and needless comment.

[Cinnabon]

Well, I dont know how we ended up on this topic :-)
I dont know what to say!

[pastafreak]

In a way,no-know is right. If you HAVE been trying for a long time,it may be necessary to get to the root of the problem...if there is one....then the next step is to find a solution.

[shivvy]

Noknowledge - are you asking why your comment is rude and needless? You told someone to belt up. Lets go with that for a start.

[Cinnabon]

Yeah that is true that all checks do need to be made. Thanks for the advice but I was kinda hoping we could stick to the whole "comment" topic instead of eggs and suchlike ;-)

[Ice.Maiden]

I don't think noknow meant his remark unkindly - but maybe it was a tad insensitive at a time when Cinnabon wants to get pregnant. : (
If, after a year or so of trying hun, you can approach your doctor for tests. They don't usually do any before that time's up, because all sorts of things can delay pregnancy. You can check your ovulation times by buying a kit, and "do the deed" when you're most fertile. If still nothing happens, they WILL want to check your partner's sperm count, and also run checks to see that you're healthy and have no infections, or PCOS.

[Ice.Maiden]

What you said was right, noknow.....just....it's not what you say, but the way that you say it!! : )