Is My Child Gay?

[iBrowse]

Ok..... ad a debate with the missus last night, i dare say some of you have already encountered this, but please be honest....

Is it ok to teach your children that being Gay is wrong? In my opinion, it is....

I do not predudice against them, or say nasty things, its just my opinion, that generally i keep to myself...

But....Is it ok to teach that to my child....?

Please dont think im being horrible to the gays, its just not what i want for my son/daughter?

Thanks

The man formally known as 'Eyebrows'

[Lakitu]

My opinion is whether you tell your child that being gay is right or wrong, it's not going to make one jot of difference to their sexuality.

However, teching them that being gay is not wrong is teaching them tolerance of others, which can only be a good thing, right?

[funnygirl]

For some reason, my grownup sons think being gay is wrong/horrible etc.

But I am always chastising them and make it quite clear I don't approve as I have many gay friends here at work.

[obNOXious]

Frankly no it's not okay, as it's a negative, illogical and prejeudicial thing to think in the first place and you should be encouraging your child to be as open minded, relaxed and decent as possible. If you start to set any group apart from the main and imply that their lifestyle is not okay, you really are encouraging prejeudice and as the world hopefully evolves into a better, less judgemental place you'll be creating problems for your child, as people will be wary of anyone with such negative viewpoints.

[Lakitu]

Noxy put it far more eloquently than I :o)

[MrBounty]

Surely, if you are being honest with the kid, you should treat every sexuality, religion, pretty much everything in equal measures.

Just because you dont want your kid to be gay and teach them that it is bad, doesnt mean they wont turn out that way.

You dont just wake up one day and decide to be gay - from what i have read, it's something everyone is pretty much born with.....if you teach that being gay is bad, then your kid might grow up to hide their sexuality, might be a violent homophobe....all because of you.

All in all, you shouldnt discriminate.....

[LoftyLottie]

I don't think it's right that you should have any preformed ideas of what you want for your children, except that they should be nice, socially acceptable people.

If your children are gay then nothing you say will change that - would you love them any less?

[Velvetee]

So IBrowse, what makes you come to the opinion, that being Gay is wrong?

Being gay, isn't really a lifestyle choice, it's just the way they are, just as if a person is black, white, short or tall. Surely you wouldn't tell a short person it's wrong to be short?

This is how prejudices begin, in the home, where parents instill their irrational beliefs into their children. In my opinion, it is morally wrong to tell children that being Gay is wrong.

[obNOXious]

My eldest son is actually gay, but in regards to every other aspect of his life is like all of my heterosexual children, so what is the problem?. I honestly never even think about his sexuality in relation to him, other than the fact he's obviously got a boyfriend not a girlfriend. It's had no bearing on his life because no-one has made it a big deal, because really it isn't, it's just his private business.

[MrBounty]

He didn't say he thought being gay was wrong Velvetee.

[Velvetee]

Thank you for your correction MrBounty, but if you read IBrowse's post Paragraph 2 states

"Is it ok to teach your children that being Gay is wrong? In my opinion, it is"

From that I would correct you and say that IBrowse does believe being Gay is wrong.

[Jillius]

He did MrBounty. 2nd paragraph !

[4getmenot]

It will make no difference apart from if they are go and you teach them its wrong they will lead a very sad life. Dont you just want them to be happy, I would.

[MrBounty]

Well, im pretty sure he means he doesnt want his child to be gay......he's asking if it's wrong for him to teach his child that they shouldnt be gay - i dont think he is saying that it is being gay is wrong.

He is asking if it is wrong of him to, for lack of better words, persuade his kid to be straight and not gay.

Obviously that second paragraph has been taken in the wrong context.....

[andy-hughes]

I think you should teach your children all the facts first, and if you feel it necessary, then you can add your opinion afterwards - as long as you make it clear that it is your opinion, and not a statement of fact.

In an increasingly tolerant society, gay people encounter far less predjudice than previosuly, but they are still a very long way from the complete acceptance which is their right.

I think you should teach tolerance in your child as a matter of course, about everything in the world in which they live.

You can of course balance that with a point of vierw, but it is vital to ensure that your child is not inhibited from discussing issues with you, or anyone else, because of your own hostilities in certain areas.

[Velvetee]

Mr Bounty, "Is it ok to teach a child being gay is wrong" He is saying in his opinion, yes, it is ok to teach his children that being gay is wrong.

I think that statement in Paragraph 2 is pretty clear and it's you who hasn't quite fathomed what he's saying. Guess this is another debate.

[jno]

what Nox said.

[obNOXious]

Sorry Mr bounty but i think ibrowse is stating very clearly that he thinks being gay is wrong.
Quote:-
'Is it ok to teach your children that being Gay is wrong? In my opinion, it is....'

'I do not predudice against them, or say nasty things, its just my opinion, that generally i keep to myself...'

I have read and re-read it several times and come to the conclusion that he thinks it's wrong.
Perhaps he could post and clarify for us?

[iBrowse]

I think its all been taken out of context....Mr Bounty, i applaud your faith in humanity...I do not think that being gay is wrong, but i do not want my child to be gay....

Its exactly the same as i dont want them to join the army, be a hairdresser or sweep streets....Im not saying they cant, im just saying its not what i want for my child.....

Let me make it clear that if he/she were, it would make do difference, i just am saying its not what i want for my child.....

So is it WRONG for ME to make that clear to my child?

[MrBounty]

"I think that statement in Paragraph 2 is pretty clear and it's you who hasn't quite fathomed what he's saying. Guess this is another debate. "

As Nox said, maybe iBrowse should clarify a bit better - obviously i have read the thread one way and others have read it another way - amazing how that might happen on a website, isnt it??

[Velvetee]

So, IBrowse are you really MrBounty in disguise?