My daughters father had access twice a week, she refused to see him from the age of eight because of things i wont go into. Similar to urself, When she was twelve she decided she wanted him access although no attempt wasmade by him to excerise it stopped on paper to make her feel safer. She could not use the same solicitor as i had used due to a conflict of interests, They advised her that by raising this he might fight it and open up something that had lain dormnt for four years, She still went ahead with it and had his rights to acess every again removed. It made her feel empowered which was great for her after what had happened. This was under Sottish law