Knicker snatcher

[seahorseeggs]

I am convinced that friend of my 13-year-old son is stealing my underpants.

Everytime I notice a pair have gone missing, it is usually a few days after the boy has been at our house.

He has taken them from my knicker drawer and the laundry basket. He may have also stolen panties belonging to my 16 year old daughter.

This is a very odd situation and I have no idea how it should be approched.

Any ideas?

Thanks!

[Hgrove]

Perhaps you could try and put a lock on the bedroom doors or wardrobes, and try to ensure the laundry basket is out of reach when he visits;  and notice if any more underwear goes missing.  There is a chance it is not him after all.  But if you are positive it is him, then a one to one word with him might do the trick.  I think he may well be worried about losing face if word gets round... 

[smudge]

I wouldn't bother going to the expense of putting locks on the wardrobe or bedroom doors, especially in your 'own' home. Be diplomatic, but don't invite him round for a couple of weeks & see if it still happens. This may proof the point, but then again, he may be completely innocent.

[undercovers]

invite him and all your sons mates round for party or something then present the perv him with a pack of thongs you've bought for him with the line "seeing as you like them so much I got you some of your own - you look like a size 12" - shame the lad... or actually just have a word with your son, if a friend of mine was stealing my parents underwear I would be seriously disturbed and would very quickly stop inviting them round

[HighwayChile]

Name and shame the boy? Do you realise the torment that child would receive from his peers, how unbearable school would become for him? Or what kind of long-term effects that could have on someone?

What a horrifying and inappropriate suggestion. He's only 13, it's not uncommon for people to go through confused, silly stages during puberty. I would think that if you were positive it was him, the best course of action would be to have a quiet word.

I also think asking a 13 year old, namely pp3000's son, to handle the situation is a bad idea. Its not only inappropriate to expect a child of that age to deal with such a situation, but would destroy their friendship and again, if pp3000's son told anyone else, this could result in severe bullying. I think the son is best left out of it, as it could only have a negative effect on him.

[Fat Boy]

Don't forget you have absolutely no proof whatsover - you only suspect him.  So whatever you do next, be very careful for your sake, his sake & perhaps more importantly, your son's sake.

One thing I don't understand is your coment, "He may have also stolen panties belonging to my 16 year old daughter".  Do you mean pairs of her knickers have gone missing & you think its him, or is it that you feel everyone's pants are at risk with him around?

I also don't understand how all this can go on without anyone knowing where he is in your house.  I would have thought that the bigger problem here is the possibility that he's going through people's rooms.  If you want to be sure, the next time he's upstairs just wait a few moments and quietly go up to your room.  If he is pinching them he'll get more & more confident & will eventually give himself away.  When (if...) that happens, simply tell him (without anyone else hearing) that his behaviour is not acceptable and he is not to go into anyone's rooms unaccompanied.  If that doesn't work then of course you'll have to resort to stopping him from coming round but I doubt it would get to that.

 

[smudge]

Precisely, which is why I said to give him the benefit of the doubt. To humiliate him would be very cruel, especially if he is found to be innocent at a later date.

[Greedyfly]

This has happened to me - we used to have an older lad who came around the house and my mum paid him for helping her with stuff around the house and we found he was helping himself to my undergarments - I reported him to the police and they dealt with it

[marghay]

I once caught a family friend in his early 20s (about 20 years younger than me) going thru my knicker drawer. To cut a long story short, I ended up taking off the panties I was wearing (nice black satin briefs) and giving them to him on the promise that he'd never steal from me again. He never did.

[undercovers]

i think its time to call the the heavy guns - make the call - thats right ... GET TRISHA, she'd bite your arm off to get the 'knicker nicker makes my life a misery' episode

[arthurstace]

It's perfectly normal for young boys to be fascinated by older women's knickers. Just lock your pants drawer and have done with.

[Marvin84]

if you find that it is him....maybe chat with him and if it continues - get the parents involved..... theft starts innocenly enough.....

[smudge]

My sentiments entirely Marvin.

[greendog]

Get your most attractive knickers, or even better, buy a really stunning pair and leave them in a place where he�s likely to find them � and here�s the crunch � leave him a note inside telling him you know what he�s been doing.  NB: you�re not sure if it�s your son�s friend, so make the note ambiguous so it can apply to any would-be knickers knicker i.e. no names.

[keirah]

maybe the child has problems at home and half of you r taking the **** out of him grow up u lot maybe your son is taking them have u thought of that...........................................just a thought

[Diablod666]

maybe you should take some advice from someone that boys age... me :D lol im 14, and i find this extremely funny. I know that the thing most likely to make me stop, and also least embarassing would be little hints, like saying "my clothes seem to keep disappearing! anyone would think that SOMEONE has been stealing them." with slight emphasis on the someone. enough for it to show him that you know if he is the thief, but not too much to make him wonder if he isnt. most 13 year old boys that would do that sort of thing are a bit dumb, so i wouldnt worry about them catching on if they aren't the thief. if the problem persists and you are convinced it is this boy, its naming shaming time in front of your son. if i caught someone goin thru my mums knickers i'd tell the entire form/class! or threaten them with it at the least. maybe you should make the same threats.

[Marvin84]

Diablod... you're a terror!!  :-) But I like what you've writte ( i was once a terror.. I still am, but now i have a bigger bank balance!!! :-)

..... I think that we've all thought of that, but are concerned that he may (or may not) have a psychological problem and embarassing him may not be the best thing...

But since there are a few people who've had the same experience, maybe embarassing him is the best thing.....

Good on you for posting Diablod!!:-)

[Ahmed]

I think you should 'skid up' a few pairs of your knickers and leave them lying around for him to steal.

That'll teach him :)

[ivehaduremum]

Everyone has assumed that he is wearing/sniffing them but this is purely an assumption. Maybe he is stealing them to sell on ebay?