Difficult Situation

[think_sweet]

I've managed to find myself in an awful situation, I found out last week I am 7 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend decided to ended our 5 year relationship 2 weeks ago. Thought it only right to tell him because a termination is completely out of the question. He finally agreed to talk about it, I knew he would be devastated but I came away feeling even worse. He is convinced im going ahead with this to keep him in my life, he is wrong. Yes I do still love him and would be more than happy to try at our relationship if it was possible but he is set on being single and said himself he cant be in a relationship anymore. I am very happy to do this on my own, but I will admit life would be easier if we were together. He even mentioned starting a family just 3 months ago but I said I wasn't ready yet.

What is worse is that I am now in exactly the same situation his ex-girlfriend was in when we first met. She was 2 months pregnant, they ended very quickly and we started a relationship straight away. I spent the first 2 years of our relationship resenting her because I had it drummed into my head that she went ahead with the pregnancy it to keep (my ex) in her life. Now the tables have turned on me, and I finally realise how awful it must have been for her.

Even though he doesn't think I should go ahead with this, he said he will still be there for me but this will make it so much harder for me to move on. I know there is now something so much more important to focus on but I cannot switch my feelings off, I also have to deal with not seeing his son anymore who has been a massive part of my life for 4 and 1/2 years. I hope this will get easier because at the moment it feels like it wont.

[Jemisa]

Things will not get easier, with your thoughts on this plus his thoughts it all boils down to an unwanted child. Will the child suffer because of all this uncertainty? you are in doubt and he's in doubt its not a good recipe for a happy family. I always say when in doubt - back out. A termination might be best for both of you. ♥

Jem.

[Daphne1411]

You say atermination is out of the question, why? It was an unplanned pregnancy, you have not really got the support you need or want. It looks as though your bf can't/is unable to face responsibilities? Even though you still love your bf he doesn't love you, could you really face life with this person occasionally around when he has the time for your child for the REST of your life? It is a difficult decision to terminate but you need to think of yourself. You don't say how old you are, whether you are working, how much of life experinces tou have enjoyed. To move on and begin afresh is hard but you must do this for your own peace of mind, for your own future.