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Clingy babies - do they cry 'to get their own way' or are they genuinely upset?
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My little babe is very clingy at the moment and since our holiday, he won't even go to my mum who is was absolutely fine with before. I know this is seperation anxiety and believe he is really upset and just wants to go to the person who he loves the most and is secure with, ie me! But my tougher sister thinks he cries just to get his own way and stops when I take him as he's got what he wants. He's just 6mths old, how can he know to cry to get his own way? What do others think?
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Of course he cries to get his own way, that's the only thing he can do to get his way! If he's crying because he wants some cuddles then of course he's going to stop when you pick him up! If he's hungry and cries and you feed him does your sister have the same reaction? A feeling of security is a basic need and you shouldn't feel guilty for providing the comfort he needs to feel secure.
I'm with sophie. Babies at this age cry to express all their needs, and i fail to see why a tiny baby 'getting his own way' is a problem. Children up to the age of about three are totally egocentric, and want what they want when they want it, but there is plenty of time when they are able to understand, to educate them that they cannot always have what they want.
To me, denying a crying baby is cruel. The old notion that they are 'exercising their lungs' is rubbish - babies cry for a reason, sort the reason, stop the crying. It's not rocket science, but it is loving parenting.
To me, denying a crying baby is cruel. The old notion that they are 'exercising their lungs' is rubbish - babies cry for a reason, sort the reason, stop the crying. It's not rocket science, but it is loving parenting.
woofgang....I don't cry to get my partners attention
Ignoring a crying baby is no bad thing, what I was saying was that you shouldn't pick them up the instant they start crying, leave them a short while and if they are still crying THEN pick them up. Sometimes if you leave them they soon 'cry themselves to sleep'
Ignoring a crying baby is no bad thing, what I was saying was that you shouldn't pick them up the instant they start crying, leave them a short while and if they are still crying THEN pick them up. Sometimes if you leave them they soon 'cry themselves to sleep'
I believe the more you cuddle and hold your baby the more secure and content they will be, its normal at this age and he just needs extra reassurance and cuddles and he will soon be fine again, like others said it is cruel to leave a baby crying for longer than a few minutes, you dont need to instantly rush when he cries but respond to his crying by talking at first and then picking up if he needs it. you could try reassuring him with words as you hand him to your mum and keep doing this while she has him so he knows you think its ok for him to go to her. At this age you might see him look at you when he meets someone new, he's checking you think this person is ok. if he cries when you leave the room keep coming back all happy and with positive words and expression even if he's upset. Then he'll learn you come back and its ok for mum to leave for a bit sometimes.
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