Am I Being Oversensitive...?

[Baby_Sham]

Right, I'm well aware that 'Facebook problems' come across as a bit childish and pathetic, but this is really bothering me, so I wanted to ask for your opinions.

I have a friend, a male friend, who I have known for nearly ten years. I'll be completely honest, we did have a bit of a 'fling' years ago, but nothing more than a bit of fun between friends.
Anyway, he has moved away and we've both moved on, but we still keep in contact via Facebook. He has a girlfriend, I have a husband, yet he'll randomly send me 'inappropriate' messages, which I have never ever responded to, other than to tell him to behave himself and maybe send them to his girlfriend instead. He recently sent me a...er... video from his phone, though I think that's all I need to say for you to understand what kind of video it was, and I responded in the same way as I have to his messages. In fact, I told him if he sent me anything like it again, I would forward it on to his partner. I really have no interest in that kind of thing.
So, since then he has gone out of his way to shoot me down, on both mine, his, and other people's statuses. Nothing specific, but general nastiness/rudeness/and trying to make me look like an idiot.
I dared to have an opinion on something today, and he went all out and posted comment after comment saying how I didn't know what I was on about, how I was a pessimist, and how he was "sick of my negativity"... despite it being the first thing I had commented on. He quite often refers to me publicly as his "facebook friend", and just the other day said via a comment on a status we had both been commenting on "well we only know each other through Facebook"... which is obviously not the case.
He will then send me a private message saying he's sorry but he doesn't want to upset his girlfriend, who wouldn't be happy if she knew we'd 'been together' - even though it was years and years before they'd even met.

Am I being stupid, or am I right to be a bit hurt that he seems to be knocking me down at any given opportunity, just to prove something to his girlfriend, who I don't even know.

[ummmm]

I would block him.

[2sp_]

No, you're not being over sensitive, he is being a tool.

He's not really treating you like a friend. Block him and let him live his silly little life with his girlfriend.

You deserve to be treated better by your friends.

[elliemay1]

I don't think it's to do with his girlfriend. It's to hurt you because you , quite rightly , spurned his video. I feel sorry for his girlfriend. I think you should cut all ties with him and ignore any comments. After all, you're happily married and don't need that hassle.

[murraymints]

Unfriend and block him....if you can also block him from phone....guy's a d@@k... hope you are feeling a bit brighter these days baby ..xxx

[ClaryS]

the next time he puts anything negative on, write underneath 'are you being nasty to me cos I didn't like the video you sent me, of you having a w*nk. Oh and then block him and send all his dirty messages on your phone to his girlfriend she has a right to know what a complete jerk he is. And what does your hubby think of all this?

[Baby_Sham]

Thankyou, I did think it was a bit mean, but I know the whole 'Facebook' thing can sound a bit childish.
I haven't done anything to 'deserve' it, I've always been really nice to him and a good friend. I have always replied to his 'dodgy' messages by telling him it's not right, and that he should concentrate on his girlfriend.
He then responds by saying he loves her but doesn't fancy her and she doesn't 'do it' for him..... yeah, I know, utter BS.
I even said I felt a bit sorry for her, but he just seems to take any chance to have a pop at me and make me look stupid.

Thanks, I will block right now :)

[rockyracoon]

I'd block him but first tell him you have a Youtube account.

[ClaryS]

wow the lives some people lead.....:-(

[Baby_Sham]

I've blocked him now, and no longer have the video.... but he doesn't know that and I suppose it's good 'leverage' if he tries to contact me some other way.

[ClaryS]

Tell your husband and then he can send him a message. A few years ago an old girlfriend of OH got his email address from somewhere and sent him pics of her 'bits' and a private email addy she set up for him to reply. he showed me straight away, so I sent an email to her suggesting she find herself someone not married to jiggle her bits at.

[2sp_]

I like your style, ClaryS.

[joeluke]

I answered a knock at my door this afternoon.

It was a pizza delivery guy....... "I haven't ordered any pizzas," I said. "This must be a mistake."

"I know," he replied. "Your friend has forgotten his Facebook password and wanted to you to see what he was having for lunch."

[ummmm]

No friends to add, Joe ;-)

[joko]

it is probably a bit of both - but regardless of his reasons - i understand his desire to make her think he doesnt like you - but he has no right to make you feel bad or embarrass you online - apology or not

tell him if he does it again tell him you will send her the email if he does it again

maybe the girl is suspicious of you for some reason - seen a bit of an email or been snooping etc

[lcg]

i would paste the video he sent you onto facebook and accompany it with a clear explanation for his partner/everyone else. then block him, get a new sim card and ignore him from then on. but i can be a spiteful cow when i want to be :-)

[lcg]

oh....you got rid of the video. always keep incriminating evidence!!! x

[crystalglobe]

He used to be your`friend`,so you are not being over sensitive. He isn`t a friend anymore otherwise he wouldn`t do this kind of thing. Block him , have nothing more to do with him. You don`t need this so find some friends who treat with the respect you deserve. Get rid!