So Disappointed

[fitdarren]

I could scream! I was supposed to meet an old friend for lunch today, not seen her for a while so I was really looking forward to it, but she's rung up and cancelled because she's got a bad headache, not the first time she's cancelled a meeting at short notice. I got up earlier than usual to take my dog for his walk before I went out and it was all a waste of time and now I have the whole day stretching ahead of me. I feel really down and she didn't suggest an alternative either. Maybe time to end the friendship?

[Xeronema]

I feel your pain, I've been there all too often with my friend that has become so distant now, I don't even know if we're friends any more. He's the way he is because of his wife, she has never really liked me.

[douglas9401]

Or next time nip round with 2 ibuprofen the night before and monitor the situation.

[Cloverjo]

So annoying. It reminds me of when my friend cancelled a get together by phoning me “from work” and working late, but I could see from the caller ID that she was at home.

Don’t end the friendship. Just don’t trust her, or go out of your way to accommodate her

[barry1010]

Some people really suffer with migraines or cluster headaches, it can really interfere with their lives.

If she is one of them, she has my sympathy. If she's hungover or making excuses she's just selfish

[mallyh]

perhaps she doesn't have enough money to cover a meal and rather than admit it made an excuse x

[fitdarren]

She doesn't have migraines barry. She is quite a selfish person, but I've known her for a long time and we 'go back a long way', but I'm not sure I can take any more of her last minute rejection. This was our Christmas meet up.

[fitdarren]

She isn't short of money mally, quite well off in fact.

[barry1010]

Talk to her in the new year. Tell her plainly that if she wants to cancel you'd much prefer her to be honest than make excuses, preferably in advance.
See how she reacts, she may say something that surprises you

[fitdarren]

I can't believe how down I feel, probably because it's Christmas.

[Bazile]

Perhaps she had forgotten that she had given Parker , the day off

[fitdarren]

She'll have to contact me barry, the way I feel right now, I don't want to contact her again. I put such a lot of thought into her present as well.

[ZebuSanctuary]

Leave the ball in her court.
Give it 12 months to see if she contacts you.
In the event that she doesn't, then clearly she does not put the same value on the friendship that you have done.
In that event, remove her from you Xmas card list.

[fitdarren]

I am going to leave the ball in her court Zebu.

[Tissy]

Been there done that, I know how you feel.

[rowanwitch]

Know how you feel, spent £70 on concert tickets for tonight, as friends Xmas treat, her daughter booked 3 days in Lanzarote. So £70 out of pocket, no Christmas concert and no apology from her daughter.

[bednobs]

cant you sell them rowan, or go anyway?

[fitdarren]

Sorry to hear that rowan, how rude of them both!

Well I managed to salvage the afternoon. I rang another friend and had a moan, she said she's got nothing planned so why don't I pop round for a coffee at hers. I did and she also had some home made cherry cake, so I had a really nice couple of hours or so. Just got back. A real friend.

[rowanwitch]

Couldn't sell them as they still have tickets available, Its such a social event I would look a really sad case if I went on my own, and its not the best place to get back from late at night for a solo woman. Never mind it won't affect my friendship and she offered to pay for her ticket. I said no as it wasn't her fault .

[JimF]

I suggest you give her one more chance. If she does the same thing again, just reply that you had made other plans anyway as you just assumed she'd cancel again at the last minute.

[rowanwitch]

Sometimes you have someone in your circle who is so unreliable they drive you nuts, only you know if the time you do spend together makes the rest worthwhile. I have another friend who drives me nuts but when we get together we have such fun I forgive her every time