jelly-baby, why does it have to wreck his marriage ? You can bring the baby up without him,his marriage can't be that great anyway, and you have said you thin k having the baby is the right option for you,having an abortion is an option,but I think that is a far bigger decision than having the baby, but I am speaking as a bloke, it won't be easy fetching a baby up on your own, and it is going to be tough whatever you decide,you do need to talk to somebody, haven't you got a close friend you can chat to who will be 100% honest with you, you certainly have a lot of thinking to do, good luck, Ray