pregnant at 17

[here2listen]

My daughter of 17 is 7 weeks pregnant and I am worried for her. She is fairly immature and her bf is only 18 and has aspergers syndrome (similar to autism, only his is a mild form). He doesnt really want to be with her. I worry she may want to keep the baby and wont be able to cope. Has anyone else had similar experience?

[meltoadhall]

did you know they were sexually active? I'd take a trip to your GP for advice, when you say she may want to keep it, are you thinking abortion? If so you need to get the ball rolling as there may be a waiting list.

[here2listen]

I had a feeling she was active but not totally sure. I think abortion is best in her circumstances but I am torn as I dont really believe in abortion, not sure what is the best solution.

[B00]

In all fairness- the decision is hers and hers alone I'm afraid as to whether she wants to keep the baby. The only thing you should do is to be there for her whatever she decides.

There are no waiting lists for terminations.

Good luck, and I hope whatever she decides to do it will be a happy decision (ok maybe not happy, but best for everyone concerned) all round.

[meltoadhall]

actually at my local hospital there is a waiting list as there is such a huge problem with unwanted pregnancies - I know as i have worked in the clinic there.

[Pippa68]

I agree with BOO, and echo her sentiments..hope everything turns out the best way for your daughter ~ and you x

[recruitment]

You should give her all the facts about having a child all the in's and out's, the good and the bad. you should also tell her about having a termination the good and the bad... see if she feels ready to commit her life to a child and not be the same as all her friends and other people her age tell her what she will miss out on, if she is as immature as you say you should tell her the facts and put it to her as you feel right. Hopefully encouraging her to make the right choice. For the both of you. Good luck

[moominmonsta]

im 17 and im 23 weeks pregnant my boyfriend is also 17 and so far we are doing ok. i no my life will change the day my baby is born but i no it is the best thing to do i would regret it so much if id had an abortion.

her boyfriend is not the one that matters she would be ok on her own as long as she has her mum like i do. i don't know wot i wud do without my mum shes been amazing.
what has she said to you she wants to do??

[moominmonsta]

iv jus read wot the others have put and i disagree as just because she is 17 it does not mean she won't be able to cope. im having my baby boy in june and it will be the best day of my whole life and i will cope with wot comes after.

[liquidspace]

Moomin - thanks for that. Good luck with your pregnancy.

My daughter wants the baby but is worried about the circumstances, i.e. bf, nowhere to live, money etc. So she is wondering whether to have it in spite of those things being wrong or whether to get rid because of those things being wrong.

[liquidspace]

p.s. my other name is 'here to listen' - logged on with the other name!

[redcrx]

is it your daughter that has posted in last 2 days on here?

[pregnant-s]

she wont answer as she is in spain until tomorrow!

[here2listen]

I am the mother of pregnant-s.
I have watched the posts and not answered so far apart from reporting the abusive posts.
It has been very hard seeing the things that some people have written about her. Her story is indeed very true. She is vulnerable and not sure what to do. She has not lied about anything she has said.
Thank you to the people who have given informative answers, they are much appreciated.

[redcrx]

well then i have to admit that the option that you have been considering looks like the best route to take. Can you get some advice for her from brooks as i have said numerous times.
The whole situation (boyfriend getting another girlfriend pregnant, only wanting other girl and baby and not facing responsibility for your daughters) is far from ideal.
Could you face bringing up another child as I think it would fall onto your shoulders to be the 'parent' if she is immature.
As for the comments on her threads, she did get a lot of good advice in there but sadly seemed keen on just posting again and again and only encouraging the negative posts, this arroused suspicion of it being the work of a troll.
I hope you had a good holiday

[here2listen]

It wasnt a holiday, it was a one night business trip.

We have taken advice and obviously it didnt help to make up our minds, that is something only my daughter can do really, dependant on how she feels.

I wouldnt be able to bring up the child as I work full time but have told her I am there for her and will be whenever she needs me. Once again, thanks for replies, guess we leave it there!