Can me grieving affect my baby?

[mountainboo]

Hi all. I'm having a bit of a hard time at the moment as our dog passed away yesturday eve and him and I were extremely close so I've been really upset and crying practically every hour. I know it's all part of the grieving process but I'm a bit concerned that mini MB will be affected by my contant water works and low mood, do you think he will be affected at all? x

[bednobs]

is this an actual baby or are you pegnant?

[mountainboo]

Sorry, I'm 35 weeks pregnant

[ethanryan]

i think as long as you are eating and drinking well your baby should be fine. try to get your rest and keep your appetite up
sorry for your loss i know how it feels our dog was 12 when he died x chin up

[annie0000]

I had to get our 16 year old cat put down in the last few weeks of my pregnancy - she had a brain tumour - I was extra upset, I think because of the hormones and also as my brother had died about 10 months previously. I am glad to say that despite my mood, my son was born happy and healthy and is not a particularly melancholy child. I would try to enjoy your good memories and try to look forward to the happy event that is coming. p.s. after almost 8 years, i still can't face getting another cat as I would be devastated when it died. I was ok when the hamster died last week, apart from the fact I keep going in to feed him and then see that there is no cage. My younger son is desperate for a cat though, so I will have to think about it.

Maybe you could call the baby after the dog?












Only joking - lol - but Blackie Boo has a real ring to it!

Sorry, just trying to cheer you up.

[mirela]

sorry to hear the loss, trying to stay calm and cheer up, the unborn baby is most important thing at moment i suppose. maybe try to talk to you family and friends and keep your mind busy in some other things:)

[natalie_1982]

Hey Mountainboo, so sorry to hear about your dog, what crummy timing :-(
I hope you start feeling a bit better soon. It's horrible to lose a pet at the best of times, let alone when you're heavily pregnant, I don't know how I would cope right now. Thnking of you hon xx

P.S. I remember you asking a question about the rhythmic movements your baby was making and this week I think i saw the same thing with mine and I think I know what you were on about.... Anyway, my tum was moving gently, rythmically like me breathing in and out, but I knew it wasn't me breathing in and out so I held my breath and the movements continued. It was too slow to be heartbeats and too gentle and rhythmic to be baby moving so I think it must be where s/he was practicising to breathe, I read that they do this by swalling amniotic fluid. Once I had thought of that it seemed to make sense as the movements were exactly like a little baby's chest rising and falling, I felt so excited to see it. Do you think this could be what you saw too?

[mountainboo]

Thanks everyone. I've so far cried slightly less today. Lol Annie, that did cheer me up, funnily enough I mentioned about calling miniMB after the dog but I don't think the name Thorn for a human would be great, perhaps a middle name!!
Hi Nat, Thanks. You know, now you come to mention about the breathing thing I think that could be exactly what it was and I dare say it's the same as your little one. That makes alot of sense actaully because they breathe quite quickly and gently don't they?

[natalie_1982]

If you feel like crying then just have a good sob MBoo, I am doing it on an almost daily basis at the moment due to various other bits and peices combined with hormones. Babies are resilient little things and you feeling guilty about feeling sad will only make you feel even worse!

I know it probably doesn't seem like it now, and I hope this doesn't upset you, but maybe it is best it happened now before bubs has arrived as it would be even harder to cope with when baby is here xx

Re the movements, I like to think that's what it is / was anyway! Maybe someone else will be able to confirm it happened to them too! I hope I get to see it again :-)

I wonder if, when it's born, I will recognise little movements and think "Oh, so that's what you were doing in there!". I can never figure out how it seems to to do star jump types movements.

Are you on facebook MBoo? I know you're due around the same time as me (or at least I think you are - my ECD is 03/04). On facebook there is an AB appreciation group and I am on there if you are on facebook (or anyone else reading this who is preggers and would like to keep in touch, or who isn't preggers for that matter!).

[annie0000]

Glad you replied, i thought maybe I had sent you over the edge with my weird sense of humour - Thorn would be a great middle name - imagine the tale he could tell about where his name came from. But if he didn't want to, he could just say it is a family surname. My cat was called Dixie and I don't think my son would have appreciated that as his middle name!!!