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[tasha77]

im 17 and pregnant! help!

[4getmenot]

How can we help? What with, whats the problem?

[tasha77]

i dont want it though im so scared my dad would kill me if he found out i just feel lonely

[Goodsoulette]

baring in mind you were asking about abortion, phone your doctor and ask him to refer you to the early pregnancy advisory clinic. There you will be able to talk to a counseller and get the wheels in motion for a termination of pregnancy, if this is what you choose to do. It is important you do this today, you need to speak to someone ASAP, before it is too late.

[4getmenot]

If you dont want it your dad doesnt need to know. If you are sure you dont want it go and see the doctor

[Goodsoulette]

Im not looking to push you into a termination but if you really know you dont want this pregnancy to continue and you are worried your dad will find out. Your treatment will be dealt with the strictest confidence. If you have a surgical termination, you will be in and out with a matter of a few hours. It really doesnt take very long. If you have a medical termination, it happens over the course of a few days. There is no reason for him to find out. You need to sort out future contraception.

Your dad wont kill you, he will just be upset because he will have expected you to be a bit smarter when it comes to sex and wont wish for you to go through this painful process. Hes not being mad for mads sake, if you told your parents they might just surprise you.

[tasha77]

ok thanks for your advice i just dont want people to judge me im not a stupid girl. ive just got an administrators job and am trying to get nmy life back pn track x

[4getmenot]

People make mistakes no one is judging you. xx

[tasha77]

hes not even my dad hes my stepdad my parents are both dead and my stepdad is in jail and he will go mental hes like that i know him x

[Goodsoulette]

good for you. No one will think you are stupid, since the dawn of civilisation there has been a need for safe terminations. You are 17 and starting your adult life, if you feel this time is really not right for you then that is your choice.

[Goodsoulette]

Well if that really is the case, he isn't going to find out, when hes stuck in a prison, is he?

[tasha77]

i just worry too much that he might do

[redcrx]

he wont find out unless you tell him will he.

as already said, go and speak to your doctor today, they can discuss your options with you and advise.

[lil123]

Oh dear love x
I would advise you to really talk to someone regarding your options before you make rash decision at the end of the day any decision you make you are the one who has to live with that for the rest of your life no one else.
I had my first baby at 17 and by 18 I had another. It was hard as my husband hit me and called me names all the time and stopped me from seeing my family and friends so I had no support what so ever.
I did it though and also had a son when my middle daughter was 15 so a massive age gap.
If I could do it against all the odds then anyone can.
I am 36 now and still find it hard as I am a single parent this time but still out there working and building a life for us all.
Just weigh up your options and do what you feel is right for you. People will stand by you and if they don't then there are places and agencies who will support you