Really blue :0(

[Picky]

Hi all

I am having such a bad time at the moment. My darling Dad died yesterday and I'm 29 weeks pregnant and feeling so sad. How much will this affect baby Picky?

Px

[Velvetee]

Hi Picky, I'm so sorry you lost your father. I know exactly where you're coming from, I lost my mum on 22nd March (Mother's Day) and was 27 weeks or so pregnant at the time.

Obviously I was very distraught and from all the crying came down with a chest infection. I went to the doctor's and he listened for my baby's heartbeat, with a Stethoscope, but said he couldn't hear anything, so he sent me to the hospital.

Fortunately all was well, but I did ask the Midwife attending me, if there would be any major effect on the baby, she said stress can have a slight effect, but baby's even in the womb are resilient and there wouldn't be any serious effect to him.

I hope your pregnancy goes well. Keep us updated.

[k8bailey]

Awwww Picky, just wanted to say that I'm sorry about your dad. Take care of you and the bump.xx

[gossipgirl]

im sorry to hear about your loss picky. The way i like to look at it is that your baby is in the safest place it can be right now and although stress can have a slight affect on the baby, it wouldnt be life threatening. Just look after yourself in every other way possible by eating regular meals and get plenty of rest and everything will be fine. You will never get over the loss of your father but it will get easier as time goes by, even though that would be hard for you to believe at the moment. Take care and just think soon you will have your little one in your arms xxx

[zzxxee]

sorry for your loss my love
they do say stress can affect the unborn baby
but if you were to surpress your feelings you could make yourself ill try chanelling your grief in a way that works for you
maybe berievement councelling?
if you need a good cry dont be afraid to xx

[clydeserani]

Awe Picky..Im so sad for you....lots and lots of love to you and yours....

xxxxxx

[Picky]

Thanks to you all for your lovely answers. I'm trying to get my head round it all but at the moment it's all too raw. Baby Picky is kicking lots and doesn't seem any the worse for all my upset.

Thanks again

Px

[miranda3]

Picky I am so sorry . My gran died when I was 5 months pregnant and I was very upset. I did get over it, and my baby showed no ill-effects. The most important thing for you to do is look after yourself still, eating and sleeping properly etc. Give yourself lots of "you" time. Thinking of you through this difficult time. x