I am terrified of being a dad, is this normal?

[Aiden-Jones]

Hello everyone, my name is Aiden and my beautiful wife Alyssa and I have been married for 3 years. Currently Alyssa is 7 months pregnant, my wife is extremley excited about the prospect of becoming a mother. I, however, am excited about this new journey she and I are partaking upon together but honestly, I am scared to death of becoming a Daddy. I am terrified. Is this normal or is this not? My wife on the other hand seems to have no fears except for the actual labor and delivery process. Beyond that she seems utterly confident in being a Mommy. I am terrified, scared, worried, confused, and nervous. Is this something I should even bridge with Alyssa?

[thejoker160]

Hi mate first of all CONGRATULATIONS.!!!!!!!! the bit about being worried and scared about becoming a daddy is normal. I was once in that situation, even when my son was born i was scared i was going to do something wrong but you pick everything up as you go along, there is nothing complicated. I would advise you mention to your wife how your feeling, chances are she will be expecting you to feel this way, as its just normal and i dont think any guy going to be a dad for the first time could not feel this way. I would also suggest you ask your wife about her birth plan make sure you know exactly what she wants. In 2 months time you will have to support your wife during the birth but i gaurantee as soon as that baby is on its way, all your scared and worried will dissappear. Once its born you will think you will hold it and look down and you will think to yourself that is your very own little one that you would do anything for.

[ummmm]

I think it's perfectly normal.

Hopefully, and in most cases, you'll fall in love with your baby pretty quickly. The difference between you and you wife is that she loves him/her already.

[orianna]

of course your wife will feel more excited and have no fears, as soon as she found out about being pregnant she would of had an instant bond, you unfortunately can only stand back and watch. Being a parent is the biggest responsibilty you'll ever have - but also the most amazing!!
It can be abit scary at first because they're so tiny and its all new but trust me, your instinct will take over and being a daddy will come naturally. As soon as you see your little baby son/daughter everything else wont seem important. Good luck

[Sqad]

I think it is abnormal.
Pull yourself together man, the part that you will play for the first few months is minimal.

<<<terrified, scared, worried, confused, and nervous.<<

In my opinion that is totally over the top.

[squarebear]

I was scared too and didn't dare hold my newborn at first in case I damaged her in some way but very soon after the feeling of being a dad is great. Any anxiety goes away almost immediately once you look into your baby's eyes and she looks back at you.

[Sqad]

Being a Dad is easy, being a good Dad is the difficult bit.