suddenly parent of a teenager

[celeenacree]

I'm a 29 year old, living 200 miles away from family. I've just found out that my Mum has decided to send my 14 year old sister to live with me. I have no problem with this. They've had major issues and they need to be separated. One of the problems my sister has is discipline, and I was just wondering what people think the best way to deal with a 14 year old who doesn't do what she's told is.

And any other parenting tips for a 14 year old would be good.

[murraymints]

start as you mean to go on....away from mum does not mean away from rules,

[RATTER15]

Good luck!!! :)

[B00]

Buy Prozac :-)

[charlieuniform3]

Ensure that you claim for child benefit etc sort out finances straight away like tax credits.

Lay down the ground rules from day one, chores, nights out, punishments etc.

[celeenacree]

My sister thinks it'll be plain sailing, but I don't intend to let it be. She's not coming for a visit to her sister. There will be rules right from the start, and a schedule.

I've already downloaded the forms for benefit and tax credits. Teenagers are expensive.

[murraymints]

good luck !!

[cazzz1975]

make house rules stick, school is important so make sure she gets her homework done, have some treat time (dvd night, cinema, bowling, shopping)

dont talk down to her, she may take umbrage as you are her sister not a parent.

[ummmm]

Don't pretend to be her Mother.....

Be a good sister with house rules.

I left home young....I never played up...so it can work. Good luck x

[NOX]

Careful with how much discipline you try to instil, you don't want her to see her living with you to be a punishment from day one and she's 14 so actually not a kid but a young adult who needs to be shown the way to treat you and your home with respect, not treated like a naughty child. Find out why she has problems with doing as she's told, communicate, make things clear what is and isn't accpetable to you and listen to what she has to say and you oughtn't to have any massive problems long term.