Biyfriend saying in out of order for going in hoilday with my family is he right ?

[Jade_sally_bevan]

I'm 19 and been with my biyfriend for 2 years we live together. The other day my ban ask if I would go on hoilday with her for 4 days with my family I ask my boyfriend and he was okay at first now my nan has booked ad paid for the hoilday and I have booked the time of work it's only 4 days in England no where great but now he is moanin at me saying I'm out of order that I shouldn't go and saying I shouldn't want to go without . Now I don't really want to go as I feel guilty for leaving him but it is only for 4 days but I have to go as my ban has paid for it but he making it hard for me to want to go . Another reason I'm going is cou my mum moved to Wales a couple of months back and I not seen her in some time and she will hopefully be coming up to meet up . He still saying that if it was him I shoulnt go and that on out of order ... Am I ??

[Jade_sally_bevan]

Yes sorry it's in iPhone and was typing quickly should of check it

[boxtops]

Using your mobile phone to post on AB, sloopy (way beyond my understanding, but lots do it), and if you have predictive text switched on, it writes words you're not expecting.

[Old_Geezer]

Probably a post made on the "smart" handset mobile.

[tonyav]

I phone sloopy.

[Jade_sally_bevan]

Yeah sorry was on phone should of check

[humbersloop]

thanks all - so that's why I can't get on here with the telly remote....

[FredPuli43]

No. You go.
He hasn't grown up yet. He'll learn. He doesn't own you. I take it you wouldn't make a fuss if the situation was reversed and he was going away. Your as good as he is.You're being like a doormat if you let him try to tell you, directly or indirectly, not to go. You stand up to him and have a little confidence and self respect ! And if he's going to go on like this, he's going to become dangerously possessive with any woman he's with, and definitely a grown man to avoid. You'll be doing the world a service by teaching him that this not the way to behave.

[RATTER15]

Its ok, Jade, I often write the same way, Im Dyslexic, it a common trait with dyslexics.

I had absolutely no problem reading and understanding your post.

We do sometime have a problem with pedants on this site!

[Sqad]

Well, now...........not a very smart move on the part of your "nan" just inviting you and not your BF..........was she trying to cause trouble?

Hasn't "nan" got friends of her own age to accompany her on holiday?

If "nan" had been smart, she would have invited you both and the BF would have said."Going on holiday with your "nan" not bloody likely and there you would have had your get out.

You have only been together for 2 years so BF is feeling, quite naturally a little insecure.

Would you have minded if BF was invited, NOT you, to go away with HIS "nan.?

I would suggest that you haven't thought this out.

P.S There is absolutely nothing wrong in having a "control freak" as a BF....some women nee them.

[ladybirder]

Yes I would (k)nee him.

[Sqad]

ladybirder....LOL

[boxtops]

sqaddie - I hope that's one of your tongue in cheek posts, there is nothing wrong with nan wanting to spend 4 days with her granddaughter, particularly if mum is going to join the party. it's a lovely idea.

living together 2 years makes him insecure? - er no, two months yes, two years, no.

[Sqad]

\\\\ I hope that's one of your tongue in cheek posts\\\\

How dare you madam?...............;-)

\\\living together 2 years makes him insecure? - er no, two months yes, two years, no.\\\

Insecurity is no believer in time......how many ABers are on anti depressives,anxiolytic agents after being with their other half for years?

[boxtops]

No idea, sqad - but other people's problems don't mean that jade has to go everywhere with her OH nor he has to go everywhere with her, that sort of behaviour would drive me barmy.

[Sqad]

boxy....agreed, but you mentioned the time period as a reason for him not being insecure.........I just answered.

[boxtops]

fair dos, sqaddie.

[Smowball]

No you are not out of order, go on the holiday.

[Sqad]

boxy..;-) going out to lunch now.....see you later.

[Flyhalf]

Thanks, Sqad. Another new word - anxiolytic. Wonder if Stephen Fry knows it?