How can i get my mom to trust me more?

[star57]

OK so,There's this guy i met 6 years ago on Myspace we talk every night on Facebook or we'll text, I've only called him like maybe 4 times in the whole time we've been talking,i'm 26 i know it's ridiculous but she's convinced someones gonna trace my number and come kill me,i tried talking to this one guy a few years go,but she heard me and embarrassed me by yelling cuss words and slamming stuff around,so how can i get her to stop treating me like a kid? I've told him about how she acts and he seems to understand,we wanna video call each other,but i'm afraid to i just don't wanna be embarrassed he always tells me don't worry about it because whatever she does isn't gonna make him like me any less.

[sandyRoe]

video each other doing what? If it involves having no clothes on you might be sorry you didn't listen to momma. This chap might post it all over the web

[bibblebub]

video call (e.g. skype), not just video, sandy

[sandyRoe]

I see, TY, Bibble.

[star57]

i mean just to see each other in person i would never do a video call someone naked

[sandyRoe]

Quite right, too.
the one that I did has made it onto the web. Most mortifying

[jomifl]

like you gotta link Sandy?

[jomifl]

Leave home and meet real people.

[Pollylod]

your mum is only concerned about your welfare although a bit extreme! i dont think she is going to change the way she behaves and you wont ever stop her worrying because she is your mum! i think her behaviour could drive away men you get involved with in the future, so your a big girl now i think you should move out and get your own place then in time you'll get on much better with your mum and you will have the privacy you want, so just take care!!

[B00]

You're 26???

[boxtops]

I guess you're in the US, too...

[ummmm]

Move out.

[NoMercy]

You don't need your mum to trust you more, you need her to butt out of your life...

[TWR]

You never know who is on the other side of that Screen Star! It may be too late when YOU DO find out who's on the other side of that screen, the web is a dangerous place for young or old, I would never give out details to someone I did not fully know, my advise, keep your distance, Suggest a meeting but state you will be with someone( A friend) if that's acceptable by him, that should tell you something! keep well clear. people are trying to warn you! TAKE HEED.

[NoMercy]

Bit early for histrionics, TWR. The OP is 26!!!

[TWR]

But she's alive No Mercy!

[NoMercy]

So am I and plenty of people know my details.

[Eve]

Having seen some of your previous posts I feel there is maybe more reason for your mum to take such an interest in your welfare despite your age - in the nicest possible way, you can come across as quite young and naive in some of your posts.

It's going to be difficult while you are at home and may be vulnerable and there could be a number of factors. You are possibly (not knowing anything about your mum) growing up in a very different generation as far as online contact and even relationships go and you tend to hear a fair amount of scare stories about when things went wrong about people meeting online. There are plenty of nutters out there (not suggesting he is one but it's often a worry) and you can open yourself up to allsorts (speaking from internet dating experience!).

I must admit that I see my mum's (and that of other people) stance a lot differently now I'm a lot older (and hopefully wiser) and can see that a fair few things I never understood and found frustrating were actually trying to keep me safe and I understand it far more.

If you are staying at home for the forseeable future then maybe at least try to talk things over with her more, listen to each other's point of view, discuss the issues and try and come up with some kind of compromise so she is sure you're doing things safely. A good open adult discussion might work wonders in itself.