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Hi Answerbank users!,
I am in situation and would like some inpartial opinions,
I am 29yr old male who lives in South London, I own my own flat which I have paid half off over a 10 year period, I drive and work for TFL in a steady well paid job. I am currentley dating a girl who lives in Georgia - America we met two years ago when she was 19yrs old now she's 21years old.
Over in Georgia she lives with her bible belt uncle in a very unkept run down house also in this house lives her older singer with two very kids. At present my girlfriend is studying at college but hasnt decided her major she wants to become an actress but knows this is a far cry from reality so is contemplating nursing as a secure field to work in. However she can change her mind quickly. At present over the two years of knowing her she has come to visit and stay with me every year for long periods of time in that time I have catered for her needs, entertainned her taken her sightseeing introduced her to my family and made her feel like this is her home just as much as mine...
However when discussing who will eventually moves she is adament it should be me, however she has no home to call her own, is still studying and has no idea how I would migrate over there and yet thinks I should move over and live with her in a house I could purchase selling my flat here...However this seems to be a bit of a dodgy manouvere to make in the current world climate and I have no way of getting a good job there as my job is not skilled/professional i work in logistics.
Also over here in the UK i have a lot of support from my mother and sister financially who live by locally and always help, yet her mother has disowned her and lives with her boyfriend and her father dead.
Can someone please give me their take on this situation am I right to think I should not be the one moving and it should be her since im established here and she has no idea how I could come to america and no home to house us as a couple who live alone, (I refuse to regress and live with anyones parents hence moving away from mine at 20years old).
Thank you so much all
I am in situation and would like some inpartial opinions,
I am 29yr old male who lives in South London, I own my own flat which I have paid half off over a 10 year period, I drive and work for TFL in a steady well paid job. I am currentley dating a girl who lives in Georgia - America we met two years ago when she was 19yrs old now she's 21years old.
Over in Georgia she lives with her bible belt uncle in a very unkept run down house also in this house lives her older singer with two very kids. At present my girlfriend is studying at college but hasnt decided her major she wants to become an actress but knows this is a far cry from reality so is contemplating nursing as a secure field to work in. However she can change her mind quickly. At present over the two years of knowing her she has come to visit and stay with me every year for long periods of time in that time I have catered for her needs, entertainned her taken her sightseeing introduced her to my family and made her feel like this is her home just as much as mine...
However when discussing who will eventually moves she is adament it should be me, however she has no home to call her own, is still studying and has no idea how I would migrate over there and yet thinks I should move over and live with her in a house I could purchase selling my flat here...However this seems to be a bit of a dodgy manouvere to make in the current world climate and I have no way of getting a good job there as my job is not skilled/professional i work in logistics.
Also over here in the UK i have a lot of support from my mother and sister financially who live by locally and always help, yet her mother has disowned her and lives with her boyfriend and her father dead.
Can someone please give me their take on this situation am I right to think I should not be the one moving and it should be her since im established here and she has no idea how I could come to america and no home to house us as a couple who live alone, (I refuse to regress and live with anyones parents hence moving away from mine at 20years old).
Thank you so much all
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Having fallen in love (and married) an Englishman and moved to uk to be with him I can tell you that PRACTICALITY is what needs to
Win hands down. In other words - where will u get the most stability and job prospects etc.... So if I were u ... I'd tell her to open up her eyes and be practical. USA is not the best place for you by the sounds of it.
Win hands down. In other words - where will u get the most stability and job prospects etc.... So if I were u ... I'd tell her to open up her eyes and be practical. USA is not the best place for you by the sounds of it.
if you decide to go Stateside and only you can decide that, then do not sell your home here, rent it out so that if it all goes pear shaped up there you have a home to come back to and you dont have to start all again at square one.I dont think this girl is mature enough to make plans for the future at present time next time you visit make your own enquiries as to housing etc and I agree with others who tell you getting a green card is not easy and you would have to be married first.
I think deep down you know this is not going to work and I know its easy for me to say but try dating a young lady who already lives here, I have quite a few American friends but I find them on a whole to be quite selfish and they certainly would not go the extra mile for you.
I think deep down you know this is not going to work and I know its easy for me to say but try dating a young lady who already lives here, I have quite a few American friends but I find them on a whole to be quite selfish and they certainly would not go the extra mile for you.
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