id wait and see what people give you as gifts - my sister bought loads of stuff and found people gave her the same stuff as little gifts, so she could have saved the money and bought other stuff
people often like to give a gift and you might find you get things you have just bought - like clothes, toys, teething rings, mobile, blankets etc.
for now just get the essentials - cot, basket, carseat, etc, and just a few of the stuff like blankets, babygrows, bottle, toys etc
besides if you do run out of anything you can always buy as you go along
and dont turn your nose up at second hand - another lovely little baby - just like yours - has worn them, thats all ... what do you think is going to happen?
how would you feel if someone was disgusted and fearful by the thought of your own baby and his/her clothes?
hurt, confused and offended - right? because your little baby is lovely, right?
well so are all babies.
they will save you a fortune.