Stepkids

[fraser]

iam not complaining but since me and their mother split the older stepdaughter been fine and sent me a message on facebook this morning, the youngest nothing, I don't expect a card or anything just a hi! is that wrong?

[woofgang]

Sad but difficult....I mean you aren't her Dad and are no longer with her Mum....

[fraser]

I know but we are still on good terms and I have done more for them than their father

[pixie373]

How old is she?

[fraser]

seventeen coming up to eighteen does that make a difference .

[pixie373]

It might do. She might be being a,typical self -centred teenager and could be nothing to do with whether you're biological dad ir stepdad. I would just keep in contact with her anyway. Do you think she's got any reason to be upset with you?

[FredPuli43]

It does make a difference. At that age , a teenager, some kids are like that, unthinking. They can be like it, older: my daughter sent a card and called, but my son? Nothing And they're 25 and 34! They both love me dearly (I think!).

I think it's possible , in your position; children not with you, you missing them; to over-analyze, and attach more significance to things like this than you would otherwise

[fraser]

I will just see what happens in the future! thanks for all words of advice.

[pixie373]

Good luck, Fraser. Just keep in touch with her. I'm sure she's not stupid. Just might take a,while for her to appreciate what you've done for her

[fraser]

thanks pixie373 I will

[sherrardk]

I haven't rang my step dad or sent a card, he won't mind. Sometimes he doesn't ring me or the kids on their birthdays, it's not a problem. We both know how much we mean to each other and are there for each other for the big things.

[2sp_]

How long were you with her mother? And how long have you been apart?

[Kassee]

What are you moaning about ? Two of my children brought me nothing at all for mothers day this year. Sometimes they do and sometimes they dont. You are reading too much into it. I love my kids and I know they love me.

[elliemay1]

Maybe I'm prying but which of you broke off the relationship and do you think it impacted negatively on the younger one?

[NoraBatty]

Hi Fraser
Was it you that ended the relationship & was there anyone else involved? She maybe taking her mothers side if that's the case ...

[loulou111]

My mum and step dad split when i was 13. I didnt speak to him for 5 years after (moody teenager syndrome). We started speaking at a friends wedding and now have a great relationship. Give it time x