Need To Talk

[phleb]

I moved back into my own room tonight, after 2 months. i cannot sleep, panic attacks, hence i'm sat here. Every time i sleep in that bedroom i think of my mum and what if something happens to her. i start to panic and quietly come downstairs. I wont tell my husband this because he wont listen and thinks i'm being dramatic. I slept in my kids bedroom for last two months and have had no panic attacks. Why is this happening? my bedroom has no links to my mum, and my mum is in her own house and she is fine, although has had a rough year with being poorly, but nothing overly serious. I just cant understand what to do, i only have 2 bedrooms so i cant even swap and change.

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Phleb,what you are doing is making associations,irrational though they are - Panic attacks are truly awful (I know) but they won't turn into the the awful thing you fear.


The saddest part to me is that your Husband doesn't listen/understand, if only he did it would help you.

My mantra in times of trouble - Fear is a wasted emotion - you will get through it sweetheart.

[cupid04]

phleb...I symathise with not sleeping and the panic attacks. Can't really suggest anything apart from make an appointment with your GP. He/ she will be able to help and advise you. I really wish you well. xx

[Caran]

truly sorry for what you are going through phleb. why not go back to kids bedroom until you sort this out. feel so much for you wish i could help. hugs.

[bunkmoreland]

Did you get bad news about your Mum when you were in your own bedroom?

[phleb]

Its just that bedroom, i sleep fine in kids room. My kids have evicted me tonight :-(

[phleb]

i was in bed when i got the call that my brother had passed away en route to hospital. It was 12.38am exactly and i was devastated. Christmas day 2012. Since then i have never been the same. I hesitate when my phone rings, or someones at door.

[Canary42]

What a pity your husband won't listen - a friendly ear often helps. You should try cupid04's advice and speak to your GP.

Have you tried Googling "support for panic attacks" - there are lots of hits.

I haven't explored them to any extent, although I noticed that one (www . panic-attacks . co . uk) offered a free online course - I'm always a bit suspicious of free offers however.

[Elina]

phleb, if rooms are the same size, could you swap rooms permanently?

[Cloverjo]

Phleb, I remember from your previous posts that you have had a baby recently. Could your problems be something to do with post natal depression? Perhaps you should mention this to your health visitor (do they still exist?) or GP. You must tell someone what you are going through.

[bunkmoreland]

Aww phleb,so sorry. You have so much heartache then asscociated with night ti me and sleeping and that room. No peace. Not a bit of wonder you feel uneasy. You need to talk it all out with someone more professional than us though. Just to get it into perspective. sometimes people you know are too close to understand.

[Baby_Sham]

I've come to the conclusion that panic attacks and anxiety are extremely difficult for someone to understand, unless they've been there themselves.
Your husbands reaction of "you're being dramatic" is, sadly, very much a common one.
Mine used to (and still does!) tell me to "get a grip". It's not helpful in the slightest, but just put it down to lack of understanding, and nothing to do with you being weak or not coping.

Maybe you sleep better in your kids room because they're there with you? Maybe the lack of support from your husband makes you feel isolated, therefore you seek comfort and security from staying in the same room as your children? I have no idea, as it's such a complex subject, but these are just my initial thoughts .

With regards to your Mum, it sounds a bit 'OCD' to me... and I mean that in the nicest way possible.
I went for ages, having to do things a certain way at bedtime for fear of something bad happening to my kids.
I realise that sounds ridiculous, but it sounds very similar to what you're saying... every time you sleep in that room you think something is going to happen to your Mum, so you move. It then becomes a habit... which is extremely difficult to break.

I really feel for you.
As above, panic attacks are horrendous :-(

[bunkmoreland]

phleb,do you think you can control what happens to your family if you are not in your bedroom?

[Bathsheba]

Hi phleb,....just want to give you a cyber (((HUG))).....we haven't chatted before, but I've experienced panic + attacks and crippling depression, and I want you to know there's plenty of support out there if you can reach out + ask for it.
Thinking of you + wishing you a restful night,
Baths
x x

[Bathsheba]

*panic attacks* ↑ ↑

[bunkmoreland]

Hi B,and phleb,if we can help you in any way? I'm my own worst enemy every day,I'm the most paranoid person you know! But i work on.

[Bathsheba]

Hi bunkmoreland. I bet I could beat you in the paranoia stakes, lol

[Bathsheba]

..oops, that submitted to soon,.....didn't add a wink ;) or kisses x x, lol x x

[Bathsheba]

aaarrrgggh *too*.....have to own up to being a grammar + spelling Nazi...;) x x

[Sir Alec]

A lot of useful information and a friendly ear here, phleb:

http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/#.VExarUp9SuY

It's not just for people with mental disorders and they understand.......

[Bathsheba]

at the risk of overloading you with info, phleb,...a mental health professsional recommended this site to me recently
http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/

+ here is another useful site
http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/
x x