Opinions Please

[fruitsalad]

My son has just phoned me to say hes been offered a job in Bangkok with a house and company car included, his partner who he has two young children with is adement she wont go and take the children out of school etc., and says he should of thought of this before they had children and settled down, now hes not sure what to do he wont get the opportunity again when the children are older, and says he will probably regret it if he doesnt take the job but then again he doesnt want to split his family, I'm unsure what advice to give, I'm also torn as to what he should do, although I know and he does that its his decision at the end of the day, I would still appreciate some opinions, tia

[bednobs]

didn't they discuss it before he applied???

[bednobs]

ps this would be an utter no-brainer for me - a job is just a job.

[B00]

Could he not persuade her to give Bangkok a trial period? Say a couple of months? They could rent out their current property for rent.

[-Talbot-]

It basically has nothing to do with you, it is between your son and his wife.
Your input may just come across as interfering.

[fruitsalad]

bednobs he didnt apply he was headhunted just been offered the job in the last couple of hours

[fruitsalad]

I realise that Talbot Im far from being an interfering mother, I think he just phoned me to use me as a sound board

[fruitsalad]

No BOO his partner wont entertain the idea

[Baldric]

"For better or for worse!"

[tamborine]

Go for it, nothing ventured etc. Wife might follow when he skypes the house, car, weather & maid servants ;)

[dannyk13]

Depends on how much he loves his wife and children.Could he bear to be apart from them?

[237SJ]

Is the job permanent or for a limited period?

[tamborine]

A loving wife would support her husband's career choices.

[dannyk13]

Tambourine -If children weren't involved I would agree with you, but what about their education?

[fruitsalad]

237SJ I believe its as permenant as any job could be

[B00]

They're young children danny, and could easily adapt to what I suspect is a far superior education system out there!

[tamborine]

Danny, Thailand not listed here but on a par with Singapore imo. Usually in fee paying schools.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/education/education-news/going-backwards-uk-literacy-and-numeracy-standards-slip-down-international-rankings-8979588.html

[dannyk13]

In that case it is probably up to whether the wife thinks she can adapt to a totally different culture or not.

[wolf63]

If he has just found out about it then she hasn't had long to think it over. It is a lot to throw at her all at once they need to talk it over without trying to blame each other.

It is a great opportunity but they have to agree to go as a family unit. It could be great for all of them.

[B00]

Really feel for them fruitsalad- there's not going to be a winner here is there? Whichever route they take there's going to be a partner blaming them that they didn't take the other one.

[237SJ]

I could understand your son going off for a year or two year contract but a permanent move is a lot to ask. Just out of interest - http://www.expatarrivals.com/thailand/education-and-schools-in-thailand