Am I Odd

[nailit]

for being a (nearly) 50 yr old, that has never once in my life, asked a woman out on a date?
Had a few friends around last night for our weekly get together and the conversation came around to one of my friends who has been on so many 'dates' via the 'Plenty of Fish' website that he should have his own fishing boat by now. I mentioned that I have never once in my life, asked a woman out on a date! All my past relationships seemed to have just 'happened'.
I wouldnt know how to get rejected by a woman (for asking for a date) because ive never been in that position. Im been either lucky or naive. I dont know which.

[retrocop]

nailit
No worries. Some of got the gift of the gab and others don't. It generally works out. I was always considered very shy as a young lad by all members of my family. I got the few slaps around the chops but did pretty well considering. Been married nearly 40yrs so got there in the end. :-) No you are NOT Odd. My last surviving Uncle (90yrs) in November has never married. He spent most of his life looking after his elderly mother in her infirmity and then looked after his landlady of 40 odd years who ended up a double leg amputee due to diabetes. He bathed her and carried her to the toilet. (Her husband died some time before). He did everything for those ladies and was rewarded with the bungalow when his landlady died. Her kids did squit for her and were most peed off.
He is a happy,caring,sharing old Gentleman. Never had a relationship to my knowledge but he is not ODD either.

[ummmm]

All my relationships have just happened as well.

I have never in my life accepted an offer of a date. I have always said no.

[Sqad]

Odd...very very odd.

\\\\All my past relationships seemed to have just 'happened'. \\\

"Happened?".....surely at some time one of you would have said....."How about ...?" OR are you trying to tell us that it was always the woman that asked YOU?

Very odd.

[jomifl]

Sqad, have you considered that nailit may just be irrestistable(to women)

[Sqad]

^^^^...that must be the answer.......LOL

Being "turned down" is a part of "growing up"..........perhaps nailit has missed out on that.

[Cloverjo]

I don't think you're odd. You have had relationships, so no problem there. How they came about is irrelevant.
I'm trying to think if any of my relationships began with the man asking me on a date. I don't think they have.

[ummmm]

I think it's about striking up a friendship first.

[piggynose]

you´re not odd, the pulling game is overrated anyway. chatting up a member of the opposite sex can be so nerve racking. especially if you dont know him or her.

[Sqad]

There you go nailit............you are NOT odd.

[anotheoldgit]

Back in the days of dance halls, one would first approach a girl and ask her for a dance, then if that proved successful, perhaps another.

Then came the last waltz, the time to then once again to approach the same girl, it would then generally be during that waltz that one would ask the girl if one could either walk her home, or see her again some time.

It was so easy back then and one made body contact from the very first dance together, not like today when everyone gyrates individually without any close contact being made.

[EcclesCake]

AOG, is more up to date than I am as I have clear memories of the 'erection section' in nightclubs......

[Xeronema]

AOG: I believe it to be very different now to back in your day. Youths seem to be all over each other, at a very young age. A friend of my partner seems to have a different bloke every week! It's hard to keep track of who's who....

[ummmm]

Lol Eccles....I've never heard it called that before.

[shoota]

Most of the nightclubs I went to were 'standing room' only....

[anotheoldgit]

Xeronema

That seems to be very true, today there doesn't seem to be any 'romance' in the true sense of the word.

Back in my day, one thought themselves lucky to actually hold a girl's hand on the first date, and if one went to the cinema together, one was on 'first base' if one managed to put one's arm around the girl, and that was only after the start of the second film.

[ummmm]

What is 'true' romance then?

[jomifl]

/one made body contact from the very first dance/
ignoring the intervening corsetry, vest, dress, cardigan, jacket, pullover, shirt and vest. Of course central heating and cars with climate control has changed that heady intimacy to some skimpy clothing and a few tats.

[nailit]

//Being "turned down" is a part of "growing up"..........perhaps nailit has missed out on that.//
Cheers for that sqad, its made me feel so much better about my life ;-)

[nailit]

//I think it's about striking up a friendship first.//
And a bottle of vodka helps too...