Violent Incident Should I Tell Childs Father Or Keep Out Of It?

[gordiescotland1]

HI there
My 2 nephews and 1 of them is my Godson spend time between 2 houses 4 days with my sister and 3 days with their father. Last night there was a violent incident in which their mother and her partner were arguing and my sister picked up a kitchen knife and brandished it at her partner he tried to get the knife of her and cut himself in doing so. He had to have a few stitches as a result. The children were in the house at the time but did not witness it and i hope they dont know about it but I feel their father should be told what has happened as he has a responsibility to the children but my parents think this will rock the boat and cause all kinds of trouble however I disagree. I feel as a godfather I have a responsibility to these children and if I was a father I would want to know what kind of environment the children my parents are of the impression that this will all blow over that it was a one off but Im not happy about it I feel the father should know.

[ummmm]

Do you fear for your nephews safety? Is she violent towards them? Is she a bad mother?

[gordiescotland1]

I don't know why my parents are so frightened of rocking the boat and not telling my ex brother in law about what's the worst he could do

[ummmm]

Being calm doesn't mean you're a good parent.

But go ahead...try and ruin your sisters life!!

[ummmm]

Leave it to the kids to tell their father.

[gordiescotland1]

No she is not violent at all and she is a good mother it is the partner I don't trust he is controlling and argumentative my sister told my mum that

[EDDIE51]

gordie,you are letting your over-active imagination run riot again. At the moment this is just a 'one off'due to Christmas stress. Please do as Sqad would advise and 'monitor the situation'.
Something similar has probably happened in 1,000s of homes this 'festive' season.
Personally I blame Eastenders for a lot of Xmas hassle , just look at at last nights episode!. That program really should not be on so early in the evening. I had to watch it at my sons house with 3 grandchildren present they were actually frightened of what happened, a man crushed to death ! a crash due to drink driving, an a young boy sent away to boarding school due to something that supposedly happened years ago .
I really think stuff like that should not be shown until after 10 pm and then only with a warning about violence.

[gordiescotland1]

That is a good idea umm I never thought of that thanks. The children are very close to their dad and have an excellent relationship with him. I think it is likely they will tell him that's what I'm going to do. I'm going to leave it your answer is getting the best answer. You are pretty wise. It's good to get other people's views on a situation who are not involved in it it helps a lot

[Pete65]

Eastenders is the most depressing, bad tempered, show on TV.

[gordiescotland1]

I never watch Eastenders I think it's dreadful. Stopped watching it years ago. Mind you I never miss Coronation Street !!

[EDDIE51]

I have just put put up a separate question about Eastenders, I can not see why it is allowed on so early without a warning.

[gordiescotland1]

Nobody on Eastenders seems to have a Happy Christmas its all doom and gloom

[steg]

Hi Geordie, so far I think you have done the right thing by asking advice from others.
my self, I think you should let it lie just now, as it could make things worse for everyone .as you say this is a one off.
If it happens/or similar again then I would re think about what to do but hopefully that doesn't happen.

[VHG]

>>>Call the RSPCC anonymously

It is the NSPCC.

The R is for Royal and it is the RSPCA for animals.

[VHG]

>>>It's a stressful time of year

That does not excuse threatening someone with a knife.

Sounds like an awful relationship if that is how they behave.

[bednobs]

it wouldn't surprise me if the ex brother in law knows what your sister is like anyway. They aren't together, after all