Should I Forgive The Father Of My Child Who Cheated On Me?

[Natalieb798]

Me and my bofriend have been together for almost 3 years and we have a daughter together. Well I just found out that he cheated on me like 2 years ago with a girl that he told me he's never been with. I've also caught him not to long ago messaging girls on a dating website asking for pictures. I don't know if I should leave him or not. I do love him but I'm not the type of person to stay with someone that has cheated. What should I do?

[Sqad]

Islay....I didn't think that the post was JUST about married couples...................is it?

[TWR]

2 Years>>>>>>> 3 Years, what more proof do you need, the bloke is a Cheater, use your head he can't keep his "Worm" in his pants.

[Islay]

No but you also make a vow when you enter into a relationship! I feel very sorry for you! Your attitude towards relationships is very jaded!

[tamborine]

Make 2 lists; good & bad points of your bf. Act on whichever is longest.

Your dter might luv her dad & and he luv her. Do you want to break the bond? Will dter be happy with ur new partner?

Some men get frustrated when their 'needs' are denied by a tired mother distracted by baby. Some women/mistress' enjoy forbidden fruit.

Ive been thru it, held onto the father for kids sake, had 40y wed with happy latter years & 3kids who adored their dad. Good luck with your choice.

[Sqad]

Islay.....LOL....LOL....please don't feel sorry for me, I am quite at ease with myself....really.
Not sure that you are right about "vows" for couples living together........but i am sure that you are right,

[ummmm]

I'm not married and I expect the same commitment as if I were.

[Berniecuddles2]

islay i agree about the vow but women do cheat as well

[Islay]

Of course Bernie I never said they didn't. But sqads assertion that anyone would cheat given the chance is wrong.

[jackthehat]

Whether 'women do or don't cheat' isn't the question Natalieb has asked.....

[anneasquith]

The only advice I would give you is, don't sit around waiting on him to change, he won't. Good luck .

[Berniecuddles2]

natalie should ditch him..she knows that ..why ask should i forgive him ..he wont change

[ummmm]

That's the struggle, some people do change.

[jno]

people change if there's reason to do so. Or they just grow up. Natalieb will know better than me how likely her man is to do this.

[ummmm]

It's the dating sites that makes me think he hasn't learned the lesson.

Natalie - How old is your child?

[Islay]

What do you base that on?

[EcclesCake]

Wow, that is a considerable leap Trixabelle.

I'm sorry if this was your experience or was it what you inflicted on your cheating partner?

[Togo]

You do know that there are two "new" posters now involved with this , eerr social problem . :))

[Tilly2]

Here we go again!