Am I Mean

[nailit]

My sister, her partner and their kids all cut me out of there lives this year. No big loss to me as they have never been there for me when ive needed them, though ive always been there for them. (eg, some years ago my sister was in a psych hospital and I visited every day, when ive been in a psych hospital didn't have so much as a text of her)
I get a call from my mum this morning, my niece was asking if I would go down and move her fathers car as he has been rushed into hospital and the car is parked in a dangerous part of the road (because of the snow).
Don't know why my niece couldn't have asked me herself and its funny how they just assume that I would be there when they want something from me. Told my mum to tell them all to jog on.
Feel a bit guilty now but these are family members who walk past me in the street.
What would you do?

[mikey4444]

Nailit....are you the only person that can move this car ?

Knowing you (!) I expect you will oblige, to please your Mum if for no other reason.

[melv16]

It could be a bridge building exercise?

[Islay]

I would do it - life is too short to be so bitter with family

[Baldric]

Exactly the same as you and no more.

[Mamyalynne]

I'd have moved it - hope the gentleman is alright.

[murraymints]

nope.... let 'em get on with it... works 2 ways !

[-Talbot-]

Haven't they got any neighbours?

[bhg481]

Are you insured to drive it?

[Cloverjo]

Don't feel guilty. They haven't been there for you. Surely someone else can move the car.

If they wanted to rebuild a relationship, they could chat to you in the street or invite you round for a cup of tea or whatever.

[emmie]

i wouldn't go, sorry if they expect you to jump when they bark then couldn't be doing with that..

[nailit]

Thanks for replies.
bhg, that's a point. No I'm not insured to drive it anyway.
As for the building bridges thing, just how do you build bridges with people that don't want anything to do with you (and no, I'm not bitter). Just to put this in to a bit more context, my sisters partner has in the past, stole from me, broke my nose and made passes at my own (now ex) partner. As I said, no big loss to me that they've cut me out of their lives but to then ask for my help takes the biscuit.

[Mamyalynne]

I'm sure it's been moved now.

[vulcan42]

If this was bridge building exercise you sister or at least your niece should have phoned you directly. I'm in the same situation as you, they know where I Live only when they want something. Don't feel guilty.

[nailit]

Exactly Vulcan. Think I'm only feeling guilty because hes quiet ill.

[kvalidir]

Yeah but just because people are ill or old doesn't mean they aren't still horrible people. I will help anyone but not once someone has identified themselves as my enemy and actively worked against me or snubbed me for no reason. I'd tell them to sling their hook as well, help people who really need it not people who feel they are entitled to it.

[jno]

same as you.

[jourdain2]

No, nailit, you are not. I am all for reaching out to people and turning the other cheek, but they don't seem to appreciate the good qualities in you that we on here have learnt to recognise. Time for them to make a move. Be receptive and pleasant to any such move, give them a smile in the street to acknowledge that they exist, but that's the limit i.m.o.. I hope they may learn to be more aware. :)

[nailit]

Thanks for additional replies. (and thank you for the compliment jourdain). Just found out that he's had a serious heart attack. Ive always been there for them all in the past but not going to be taken for a mug anymore.