Bully At School

[newbie99]

Does anyone knows I could complain to OFSTED and the local council when the school fails to deal with bullying at school. The school has been converted to Academy status so who governs them?

[Barmaid]

First thing to do is get a copy of the School Complaints Procedure or Policy.

[newbie99]

Thanks for that, I will ask for that from the school reception.

[newbie99]

Just to be clear, I had a look at the School's anti bullying policy and it doesn't say who to contact or complaint to if the school can't resolve it. I had stopped my child attending the school for now. But can't find another school as there are a long waiting list.

[newbie99]

And also is it a good idea to tell the new school why we are moving? I don't want the impression that my child is the trouble maker...

[Barmaid]

Most schools have got a website now with their main policies on it.

[Tilly2]

Have you actually talked to anyone at the school about it?

[Barmaid]

You need to speak to an Education Welfare Officer at the LA. you CANNOT just pull your child out of school without making any provision for his education.

[kvalidir]

You need to go education otherwise route officially whilst he's not attending school, as BM says you can't just remove them with no provision, but your own provision is fine. As she says talk to the EWO at the LEA.

[Tilly2]

How did the school try to deal with it? What action did they take?

[newbie99]

I have talked to other parents and they said my child being bullied is not an isolated incidents. They have complained and no feedback was given. It seems the school ignores the parents complaint.
I have written a complaint letter and presented to the head teacher, and the head teacher asked wants the letter about. I said it's regarding to my child being bullied. The head teacher says u can't use those strong words. Bullying is my only known words, what other words could I used. This word is used in their anti bullying policy.
So i don't think they will do anything as it will sweep under the carpet. They don't wants the schools reputation to be ruined.

[kvalidir]

You can use whatever words you like, in a letter of compliant, follow it up with another letter complaining about him trying to intimidate you about how you express yourself. If all you said was 'bullying' there is nothing wrong with that at all.

[kvalidir]

Gah *complaint* not compliant, sorry :/

[Theland]

More political correctness. Don't deal with the primary problem, the bullying, but the secondary problem, the reaction.

[Tilly2]

Make an appointment to see the deputy head. Ring the school and say that you wish to speak to the deputy.

[newbie99]

I have managed to scheduled a meeting with the deputy head next week which I have requested in my letter.
I hope I can speak up as my spoken English is not that good.
It took me a few hours just to construct the letter.
I am quite nervous how to present the case at the meeting as there will be the head and the deputy ganging up on me as experienced to day. They gave me a lecture not to use the word bully.
I am currently having to buy books and try to teach him at home.
To be honest my English and maths is only at CSE levels so I so struggle to teach. But I find it better than allowing another child to bully my child. My child says school makes him sad and cry and has no friends. Bear (bare) in mind my child is only 6 yes old and I am so upset about it. The bullier have controls and very manipulative to other children and told them not to play with my child. Other children tends to comply against their will as confirmed by one of my child's best friend.
I know these children only young but it can have an emotional impact to the child.

[newbie99]

Theland: Please clarify what you mean by dealing the secondary reaction?

[Theland]

Brushing it under the carpet. Dealing with you rather than the bully.

[nailit]

Agree with Theland. My son was bullied in infant school and when I (constantly) complained, was made to feel that it was somehow his...and my...own fault. I ended up taking him out of school and home educating him for some years. Also took him to kick boxing lessons.

[MallyJ]

If your spoken English is not as good as you would like it to be take a friend who can put forward your point of view better than you...that is perfectly acceptable.