My Ex Is Turning My Life Upside Down..

[EllieJP]

It’s been 8 years since this guy (who I’d been with for 3 years) Cheated on me with a girl he’s now married to.. We got together again as we tried to remain friends but just ended up sleeping together.. So we stopped but he actually told this girl and wound up proposing to her in the same conversation.. That was the last I heard from him until about a month ago..
Or so I thought.. Turns out he’s messaged me quite a few times I just somehow never saw them.. Well we started chatting.. a lot! And he was being flirty and we talked about the places we use to go together etc and he suggested we should go again.. So we did, and quickly fell into bed again! And I’ve just found out the night we saw each other was actually his 4th wedding anniversary! And his wife is also heavily pregnant.. So I feel a bit ***.. I wanna know what’s going through his head? Does he still have feelings for me? Or is he just bored...?

[Sqad]

Ken ^^^^^ exactly.

[douglas9401]

We could be unpaid proof readers for the plot of a cheap novel.

[dunnitall]

What will be will be. For you to actually ask the question means you you the answer.....keep well away and realise he is using you. Good luck....life isn't easy and when 'love' is on the menu.....well it skews everything unfortunately!

[EllieJP]

They were messages on Facebook, and I don’t get notifications about them, were not ‘friends’ on Facebook so they don’t go to my inbox.. and I’ve seen them all since I accepted the message request.. I could also add she became pregnant for the first time within 3 months of knowing him.. I’m most certainly NOT looking for love with him.. We just had some fun times.. But I can tell we’ve both changed immensely.. He’s much more outgoing.. and my appearance has changed immensely.. (which i think was the problem, I’d let myself go) But I’m kinda liking the way Sqad thinks!

[Rockrose]

Nope no feelings other than in his sex organ, as he knows he will get laid!!

[Old_Geezer]

Just get the heck out and stop finding excuses to do otherwise. Tell him to take a hike.

[Rockrose]

You also need to get a little self respect

[douglas9401]

I've heard the expression 'many a good tune played on an old fiddle', I suppose the same is true for the sex organ.

[Barmaid]

Its irrelevant what is going on in his head. Its yours that matters. Emotionally I am not convinced you can deal with being the mistress. If you can accept that you are just his bit on the side and its fun, fine. But i dont think you can.

[AuntLydia]

Ellie, I went back to your original post and you asked does he still have feelings for me? or is he just bored? Well his feelings for you probably hover around the groin area and always have and you have admitted he is just 'a bit of fun'. If you carry on the relationship understand it for what it is, and enjoy it until he gets bored of you. No good pretending to yourself it is or was anything else, trying to convince yourself he was somehow entrapped by his now wife through her pregnancy. These are just excuses. Both of you are behaving quite selfishly. There are plenty of single fit young men out there ready for a no strings relationship, grab yourself a bit of self esteem and along with your new image get out and enjoy yourself!. He is a lost cause.

[Peter Pedant]

// what difference doe it make whether the "innocent " wife is pregnant or not? //
blimey Sqad - did you ever pass the old DRCOG ?
if no - I can well see why .....

[Peter Pedant]

// Well his feelings for you probably hover around the groin area//
well aunt lydee has it
his feelings for his own groin area and yours....
but as the laydeez say above - it is your choice.....

[ABSpareEditor]

I have moved this thread into the category "Family".

[shawn77bird]

If you let a man do whatever he wants in a relationship, he will continue to do so unchecked. You have to step up, use your big girl voice and say, “Enough is enough. We need to talk and we need to talk right now.” Sit down and tell your man what’s on your mind and how you feel. Now, boys will be boys, and he may just be evasive. “I don’t know what you’re talking about, sweetie. You know I love you, baby. I always come back to you in the end.” Yada, yada, yada. Don’t let his sweet talk fool you or soften you. Set boundaries and tell him if he disappears again, it’s really over.