Wedding Present

[retrocop]

My wife and I have been invited to her nephew's wedding in Scarborough at the end of the month.
Could any one suggest a suitable monetary gift as a wedding present please.
We are not paupers but then I am not Getty either :-) . Thanks for any reasonable suggestions.

[calmck]

Do they have a Wedding List registered anywhere?
Have they been living together, if so they might already have most of what they need. Check wedding list best thing to do

[xenoblast]

For a family member such as a nephew I would suggest Between £100 - £150

[jno]

do wedding lists have suggested donations these days? Nothing would surprise me.

Anyway, here are some suggestions (I'm not sure if Scarborough counts as a "destination")

https://www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/wedding-gift-spend/

[Calicogirl]

£100- £1k depending on how close you are and how flush you are really is pretty normal I think for closish family.
I gave my sister in law (who I hate) £100 for her baby shower, my one brother and wife £1k for honeymoon spendies, and spent £40 on one friends wedding present ( because she chose it) and £300 on anothers.
It's all relative to how close you are really I think. x

[aelmpvw]

blimey zeno, you must be rolling in it ...

[NellieMay]

I think retro is looking to give money, not buy a gift.

Just give what you can afford and probably would have spent if buying a gift.

[UKSWF]

I was going to say about £50, but it really depends if they are starting with nothing or have an established home already!

[jamesnan]

I think the suggestions of £100 plus must be for those people who can really afford such amounts, I would find it difficult to give amounts like that to people time after time.

[jno]

depends how many times, jamesnan. You go to friends' weddings, then there's a gap of 20 years or more before you go kids' weddings. This may be less clearcut if you've got large families with siblings and niblings of different ages, but I've only been to one wedding in the last five years.

[bednobs]

I would suggest a value of about the same amount a meal for 2 costs

[jno]

is that with large fries, bednobs?

[TonyV]

Can you not buy a voucher for a nearby restaurant?

[bednobs]

nah, what I mean is this:
They are inviting you and presumably giving you both a meal/drinks. you incur extra costs by having to stay in a hotel/suit/haircut/hat and so on.
Therefore a quid pro quo is to give them an amount equal in what they have spent on you

[NellieMay]

Jamesnan. I am with you on this. There is no recommended amount and people should never be giving more than they care really afford. Some present lists are ridiculous these days! I couldn't afford anything on them. Monetary gifts are more sensible and couples should be grateful for anything. Weddings should not be about gifts.

[jno]

yes, that's a pretty good metric, bednobs

[david small]

We gave £100 to my nephew and his wife for their wedding gift. Add to that hotel, food, petrol etc.
They were quite happy with our gift.

[anneasquith]

Jno, great link thanks .

[retrocop]

Thank you all very much for your time and advice. I was thinking £100 cash. Considering petrol,weekend hotel and food accomodation. The memsahib suggests I am a tight wad and she thinks £250 would be a reasonable gift. Looks like she has already decided so am not sure why I am wasting your time but again thank you all very much for your input.

[anneasquith]

Look on the bright side retro, she could have said £500 :*)

[retrocop]

Her other brother states he is giving £1000 so I think you are right annieasquith.