Please Help ,mom Drama

[Kaiaxx]

Im 17 years old and have a terrible relationship with my mom, and with my dad too because my dad takes my moms side instead of mine. I hate her and I have been grounded for months causing me to be depressed. I now am allowed to hang out with 2 family friends who I like, but they aren't my best friends and are always busy anyways. I miss hanging with my best friends. My mom now says they're losers and sluts because I smoked with them and got caught. I would live with a friend except my mom would call the police so I have to wait until I'm 18 to leave. I am planning on never speaking to my parents again as soon as i turn 18. I am counting down the days. 9 months and 19 days. I don't think my mom loves me. She fat shames me and rewards my sister for being mean to me. She has never told me she loves me and tells me I will never find a boyfriend who loves me or friends who actually care about me. She did pay (and force me) to do piano when I was a kid and payed for me to do dance. She sent me to an expensive summer camp twice and wrote me a letter each time. She also has a collage fund for me with $13,000. $11,000 of that was from my grandma. Would it be immature and ungrateful of me to not talk to her? Thank you for reading all this, Love. Please give your advice!

[waterboatman]

I think you should talk to your mum. She has a lot more experience of life than you have. She obviously knows you very well.
You're in the USA, This is a British site.

[Smowball]

Please sit down with your mum and tell her how you feel. She might not have a clue.

[johnk]

Yes

[emmie]

it would be the same as the others, you only have one mum, get talking and iron out your differences.

[rowanwitch]

Some parents struggle because they find that whatever they try it's taken the wrong way. It's not that they are deliberately cruel or mean it's they don't know how t do it differently. I bet it you could talk to your mum in a grown up calm way you could get a handle on her feelings. As for fat shaming ask her to help you if you have a weight problem. If she can find a way to be a useful part of your life she might get the mom bit right in other ways too.

[emmie]

exactly ^^

[cassa333]

I have a friend who seems to have been in exactly the same situation as you.

She is in 40 now and quite happy. As soon as she was able to she left home and hasn’t looked back.

Sometimes parents can just be horrible people. And that’s because being a parent doesnt suddenly transform into a loving and doting parent. Sometimes they have favourites.

Only you (or someone who knows your situation) can tell us if you are being a petulant ungrateful brat or your parents are tyrants.

Either way, stop whining and make your own plans for your future.

[emmie]

you have advice, now you need to act on it...

[Kaiaxx]

Thank you all so much you've helped me so so much

[Old_Geezer]

Dialogue is always necessary for understanding. But both need to listen and understand.